Bullied nine-year-old boy with dwarfism who said he wanted to kill himself deserves messages of support
A bullied nine-year-old boy was flooded with statements of support after his mother shared a video of him in which he wanted to kill himself because he was the target of his dwarfism.
Yarraka Bayles, from Brisbane, filmed her son Quaden crying in the car after she picked him up from school on Wednesday.
The schoolboy, who has achondroplasia – the most common type of dwarfism – said to his mother, “Give me a rope, I want to commit suicide.”
The video has become viral and Quaden and his family have received support and encouragement from Australian sports stars and friendly strangers from all over the world.
Quaden Bayles received support from all over the world after his mother cried a video of him and said he wanted to commit suicide after being bullied at school
Quaden’s support has gone international, with the nine-year-old receiving genuine messages from fans in the United States and Europe
An Instagram page set up for the young boy is flooded with messages of support with many commitments and friendship.
His family has made a statement thanking everyone for their uplifting well-being wishes.
It said: “This time, the Quaden Bayles family wants to thank everyone for the overwhelming show of love and support from so many people around the world.
“Due to the large number of messages, we cannot respond to everyone right now, because we need time to process as a family and we want to ask the media to respect the wishes of the family, they do not take calls and will speak First Nations Media only at this time.
‘Thanks again everyone, Quaden feels the love and now he needs a good rest. We meet the right rulers to make changes and to fight bullying. “
Since the video was shared on Wednesday, Quaden has had the opportunity to lead the Indigenous All Stars NRL team to the Cbus Stadium on the Gold Coast, where they will play the Maori All Stars on Saturday night.
Quaden is depicted with NRL star Latrell Mitchell. The nine-year-old will lead the Indigenous All Stars NRL team on Saturday
Quaden was broken with the native All Stars player Latrell Mitchell, who put on a South Sydney Rabbitohs sweater after he signed with the club for the 2020 season.
Mitchell is a teammate of Quaden’s uncle James Roberts, who is also part of the Indigenous All Stars team.
The All Stars team filmed a video for the schoolboy on Thursday to let him know they were by his side.
Mitchell said, “Hey Quadey … I just wanted to wish you all the best, brother, we know you’re having a hard time now, but the boys are here.
“We are behind you, we are here to support you, buddy. We just want to make sure that you are doing well.
‘We want you in the neighborhood, we want you to lead us down on the weekend. It’s going to mean more to us than to you, buddy.
“Make sure you take care of yourself and hopefully we’ll see you again in the coming days.”
A number of other destroyed viewers sent their love to Quaden via his mother’s Facebook page.
‘Send hugs and strengths. People have to keep their children under control, he doesn’t deserve to go to school like that. He deserves a safe place. I’m sorry, “a person wrote.
“It is our responsibility as parents to educate our children to be kind, respectful, and compassionate to each other, regardless of appearance, gender, religion, race, and everything else that makes us different,” another added.
Where to get support
For confidential support, call the Lifeline 24-hour crisis support on 13 11 14
The support messages from Quaden now come as far as the United States and Europe.
“I want you to know that there are many people here in Texas who support you and Quaden,” one person said.
“I just looked at your message, so sad to see what you’re going through, sent my love from Scotland,” added another.
“Hey, Quaden, I just want you to know you’re great … I think of you and send a lot of love out of London.”
‘Dear sweet boy. You are beautiful, you are worthy, you are beautifully made, you are loved. You have friends in California. ”
Mrs. Bayles publicly shared the video on Facebook in an effort to raise awareness about the consequences of bullying.
She said that she normally tries to keep painful moments like this one private, but that she felt she had no choice but to become public.
“We try to be as positive as possible and only to share the highlights … but this is how bullying affects a nine-year-old child,” she said in the video.
At the start of the five-minute clip, Ms. Bayles said, “I just picked up my son from school, witnessed a bullying episode,” the director called, and I want people to know that this is the effect of bullying. This is what bullying does.
What is achondroplasia?
Achondroplasia is a disease of bone growth that prevents cartilage (especially in the long bones of the arms and legs) from turning into bone.
It is characterized by a limited range of movement at the elbows, large head dimensions (macrocephaly), small fingers and normal intelligence.
Achondroplasia can cause health complications, such as interruption of breathing (apnea), obesity, recurring ear infections, an exaggerated inward-looking curve of the lumbar spine.
People with dwarfism have a normal life expectancy.
Source: US Department of Health
“So please raise your children, your families, your friends, because only one copy is needed … and you wonder why children commit suicide.”
‘This is the impact of bullying on a nine-year-old child who just wants to go to school, wants to get an education and wants to have fun, but something happens every fricking day.
“Another episode, another harassment, another ridicule, another bad name.”
While Quaden sobbed, Mrs. Bayles asked for help from everyone who saw the images.
‘So is there any advice or support or something that other parents have done?
“I have good advice, but I need more, I want people to know how much it hurts us as a family,” she said, her voice quivering.
The mother did not comment on details about the last bully incident, but rather said that her son was called a “dwarf” by his classmates.
Speak against NITV News, the mother said she took the video after a Quaden classmate knocked him on the head and kept referring to his height.
“She patted him on the head like a little puppy. My daughter and I looked at each other and we sent signals to him to ask if you were right, and he was like ‘no’ and he looked shocked at me, like ‘don’t make a scene mommy’. ‘
The mother, an Aboriginal rights activist, said her son has made several attempts to take his own life
“You could see he was very uncomfortable, but he was so good at trying to shake things off, he doesn’t want people to know how much it affects him, he’s so strong and confident, but it’s times like this where you just see him crumble. “
Mrs. Bayles said it was heartbreaking to look at and she felt “helpless.”
She then took Quaden to the car where he was “hysterical.”
Although there has been an abundance of support, Bayles has also been criticized for sharing the confronting images.
“I’ve worked it up a lot, I’ve thought twice about removing it … but I wanted people to see the effect of bullying on my child. If I don’t get up and speak for him, who will, “she told NITV News.
Last year she told the Courier Mail Quaden first attempted suicide three years ago when he was only six.
“I was so shocked. I really didn’t think he would even know what or how at the age of six, ”she said.
The mother, an Aboriginal rights activist, said her son has made several attempts to take his own life.
“I explained to him that once you leave, no road comes back, you are gone forever, but he kept trying,” the mother said.
She told the newspaper that she was proud that she had spoken in public about asking for help.
In a family report, Quaden’s mother Yarraka said she met the right groups to take a stand against bullying