Broadcaster breaks down to discuss how her beautiful family has been affected by alcohol addiction
A bestselling author of the trauma of living with an alcoholic partner reflects on how his addiction destroyed “her beautiful family” in a heartbreaking video.
British broadcaster and author Liz Fraser, who lives in Venice, posted the emotional video ahead of the couple’s daughter’s fourth birthday, in which she said how her ex-boyfriend’s alcoholism affected the dreams she had for the little girl back then. she was born, has destroyed.
Fraser, 46, published her memoir Coming Clean: a True Story of Love, Addiction and Recovery in September, in which she describes how Mike, the man she fell deeply in love with — and is now divorced — descended into a life of chaos as his addiction consumed him.
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Liz Fraser, 46, pictured with her little girl. The author published Coming Clean: a True Story of Love, Addiction and Recovery about living with her ex-partner while battling alcoholism — and this week posted a video to Twitter describing how the hopes and dreams she had for her daughter were affected at birth
Fraser writes in her memoir how “At the height of his addiction, Mike was so saturated with alcohol and anxiety that he was barely able to think or function normally.”
At one point she writes: ‘We would argue whenever we saw each other and the fights were sharp, vicious and worse each time; I was called ab***h, a floppy old girl and some words I don’t even know, but it’s fair to say they weren’t completely free Fife-isms.
‘Objects were often thrown and kicked. I was told that he hated me and that he had to get out of his way or else he would hit me.
In one bizarre episode he accused me of kicking him out of the hostel he was staying at – “F***ing idiot, they threw all my stuff away because of you” – when in fact I called the hostel to ask about this, turned out he checked himself out, left some things in his room, and they kindly put them in a box at the office for him to pick up.”
She also estimates that his addiction cost her around £25,000, both the money she gave him and the financial costs she had to bear as a result of his drinking.
Fraser told her followers how she felt “so damn lonely” celebrating her daughter’s birthday for the third year of her young life alone with her, reflecting: “I wanted her to have the most wonderful, happy life and our wonderful family and it all went so wrong’
In the short clip posted this week, the day before her daughter turned four, mother-of-four Fraser admitted it was “so damn lonely” celebrating the special day with just her and her little girl — for the third year in a row.
She said: ‘I know it’s so stupid to record yourself when you cry and then share it on social media, but I’m kind of alone here.
“Tomorrow is my daughter’s fourth birthday and I think especially as moms, sorry dads, it’s the anniversary of when we gave birth, which is huge and I haven’t had a chance to really recover from that.”
The author’s book about falling for a man addicted to alcohol and its impact on their relationship has become a bestseller
Fraser continued, “I remember when she was born, I remember holding her and saying ‘hello’ and I wanted her to have the most beautiful, happy life and our beautiful family and it all went so wrong.”
The video, which has been viewed more than 16,000 times, ends with her words: “You have these ideas about what you want for your kids and you’re just doing your best and it makes me sad.”
The author thanked those who have read her book and told her 13,100 followers on Twitter after sharing the poignantly honest video: ‘I’m being blamed for posting this, but you know… it’s been so damn lonely and hard, and tomorrow is her 4th birthday and a lot has just come in.
“Thank you for all the kindness you have sent me over the past 4 years. For reading my book, and for supporting us.’
Fraser moved to Venice, where she led writing retreats with her ex-partner when their daughter was just 18 months old, but Mike’s addiction worsened.
Fraser made the decision to return to the UK after a scathing argument in which he was consumed with anger and she fled the next morning with their daughter.
She reveals that a final letter to the man she loved told him, “Mike, my love, you completely broke my life,” and later reveals that persisting in his addiction left her with “severe PTSD.”
Her former partner is currently recovering, but the couple broke up before the book was published.
Mother and daughter now live in Venice; Fraser estimates she spent around £25,000 of her own money dealing with the effects of her former partner’s drinking; he is currently sober
Coming Clean: a True Story of Love, Addiction and Recovery by Liz Fraser is out now (Bloomsbury Green Tea, £16.99)