British mom hits back at trolls who accused her of ‘appropriating’ Pakistani culture on TikTok

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A British woman married to a Pakistani man who has been a Muslim for nearly a decade has knocked back trolls who accused her of “ appropriating ” her husband’s culture on TikTok.

Amber Bain, 24, from Nelson, Lancashire, faced backlash for sharing videos of herself dressed in traditional Pakistani clothing while dancing on the popular social media platform and was even abused in the streets.

However, the Community Leadership student said she just embraces her husband’s culture and ‘values’ it rather than ‘appropriating’ it.

Frustrated, Amber decided to strike back with a defiant TikTok clip of her walking down her stairs in a black hoodie and leggings before suddenly transforming into a floral shalwar kameez, a traditional South Asian ensemble.

The clip, which featured the caption ‘stop talking about a culture that doesn’t belong to you’, quickly went viral, gaining over a million views and over 85,000 comments.

Amber Bain (pictured), 24, from Nelson, Lancashire, faced backlash by sharing videos of herself wearing traditional Pakistani clothing dancing on the popular social media platform and has even suffered street abuse

Frustrated, Amber decided to strike back with a defiant TikTok clip (pictured) of her walking down her stairs in a black hoodie and leggings before suddenly transforming into a floral shalwar kameez, a traditional South Asian ensemble.

Amber depicted in the video

Frustrated, Amber decided to strike back with a defiant TikTok clip (pictured) of her walking down her stairs in a black hoodie and leggings before suddenly transforming into a floral shalwar kameez, a traditional South Asian ensemble.

Amber said, ‘I don’t know why people have felt the need to be so negative. Maybe they are just uneducated.

‘My community is really open and multicultural. Everyone hugs and we all come together. We are so open – people will knock on your door with food and welcome you to their homes for parties.

Clearly, this may not be the case in other cities. It seems people don’t like to see you do anything else.

“Most of the negative comments I received came from whites. They wrote stupid comments to me, like “Why did you convert to that religion?” ‘

She added, ‘I’ve had to delete quite a few comments because people just used the video as an excuse to have arguments.

The clip, which featured the caption 'stop talking about a culture that doesn't belong to you', quickly went viral, gaining over a million views and over 85,000 comments.  Pictured, Amber

Amber, in the photo, has three children

The clip, which featured the caption ‘stop talking about a culture that doesn’t belong to you’, quickly went viral, gaining over a million views and over 85,000 comments. Pictured, Amber

The Community Leadership student (pictured) said she simply embraces her husband's culture and 'values' it rather than 'appropriating' it

The Community Leadership student (pictured) said she simply embraces her husband’s culture and ‘values’ it rather than ‘appropriating’ it

‘I did expect people to comment on my wallpaper – I am still in the process of buying a new wallpaper for my staircase. But I didn’t expect to get so much hate. Love outweighs hate, but it’s still no fun.

‘I am a strong person, but some of the comments were enough to make someone suicidal. It just goes to show that when you post something online you should expect the worst – especially on TikTok. ‘

Amber, who is married to a Pakistani man with whom she has three children, has even been assaulted on the street because of her choice of clothing.

Amber said, “I’ve been walking around town and going past pubs, and people are like ‘What are you wearing? You’re a disgrace”.

Amber (pictured in the clip), who is married to a Pakistani man with whom she has three children, has even been mistreated in the street for her choice of dress

Amber depicted in her viral video

Amber (pictured in the clip), who is married to a Pakistani man with whom she has three children, has even been mistreated in the street for her choice of dress

For Amber (pictured), who converted to Islam when she was 15 years old, wearing Pakistani clothing is like 'second nature'

For Amber (pictured), who converted to Islam when she was 15 years old, wearing Pakistani clothing is like ‘second nature’

‘I’ll just keep going when that happens, but I’m clearly getting upset. Most of the time that has happened I’ve been out and about with my kids.

‘I just think some people don’t like to see different cultures mingle. Some people think all that stuff is over, but it isn’t. Hate crimes are still happening all the time. ‘

For Amber, who converted to Islam when she was 15 years old, wearing Pakistani clothing is like ‘second nature’.

Amber said, ‘Ever since I got married, it’s been the norm for me. When I got married, my in-laws gave me Asian clothes.

“I would wear it, and I saw nothing bad in it, but then people would say to me,” Why are you wearing that? You’re not an Asian girl. “

Amber (pictured) said: 'Ever since I got married it's been the norm for me.  When I got married, my in-laws gave me Asian clothes.  '

Amber (pictured) said: ‘Ever since I got married it’s been the norm for me. When I got married, my in-laws gave me Asian clothes. ‘

Amber (pictured) added: 'I don't appropriate any other culture, I appreciate it.  But online that doesn't seem to count anywhere '

Amber (photo) has also had many positive reactions

Amber (pictured) added: ‘I don’t appropriate any other culture, I appreciate it. But online that doesn’t seem to count anywhere ‘

She added: ‘I don’t appropriate any other culture, I appreciate it. But online that doesn’t seem to count anywhere. People are so quick to judge, I’ve heard people say I’m brainwashed.

‘People said to me,’ Why are you forcing your children into a religion? ‘ and really bad things like that. ‘

In addition to the hate reactions, Amber also received many supportive comments praising her.

Amber said, “I had a few people who said,” We love our cultivated queen, “because they’ve seen that I’ve tried to respect the culture in my other videos as well.

Response: In addition to the hate responses, Amber also received many supportive comments praising her

Response: In addition to the hate responses, Amber also received many supportive comments praising her

But other TikTok users (above) were less impressed with the video, with one person writing, 'Cultural appropriation love.'

But other TikTok users (above) were less impressed with the video, with one person writing, ‘Cultural appropriation love.’

‘I even had a comment from a girl who said, “I’m a Pakistani girl, and you really appreciate this culture.” They complimented my clothes, which was also a lot of fun to read.

However, I’m a bit put off posting to TikTok. I’m sure I have to finish my stairs now, ”she added jokingly.

Some TikTok users took to the comments section to compliment Amber, writing, ‘Leave her, she just appreciates the culture. You look beautiful anyway. ‘

Another commented: “People forget that culture is holistic. Within our own lives we create a different culture for ourselves. Keep spreading the love for cultural clothing. ‘

A third said: ‘Leave her alone, there is nothing wrong with it. What’s wrong with everyone, she looks beautiful and is happy. Don’t judge, be nice. ‘

But other TikTok users were less impressed with the video: one person wrote, “Cultural appropriation love.”

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