Bride-to-be splits after revealing ‘bridesmaid contracts’

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Bride-to-be divides opinion with ‘transparency contracts’ stating that her bridesmaids don’t have to shower or sit at the head table, but must pay for their own dresses and $500 for the bachelorette party

  • Lisa Torres, from California, said she was afraid of coming across as a ‘bridezilla’ when she wrote a list of 10 commitments she expected her bridesmaid to fulfill
  • Said the bridesmaids could say ‘no’ without consequences and was called ‘grown up’
  • Told bridesmaids who lived more than an hour away not to shop for clothes and also told them to pay $500 for the bacherlorette

A bride-to-be is divided after revealing that she sent her friends a letter outlining 10 commitments and financial expectations they should make as a bridesmaid.

Lisa Torres, from California, said she was afraid of coming across as a “bridezilla,” but she wanted to be transparent with her friends after being a bridesmaid in the past and unaware of the cost and time investment before agreeing. went.

In a TikTok video that has racked up more than 3.5 million views, the company employee shared the tip that she used to be “more transparent with her bridal party.”

The letter sent to her bridesmaids said they were expected to go to Mexico for an all-inclusive weekend to celebrate the bachelorette party and that they would have to pay for their own dresses, a standard practice in the US.

Many praised her, saying it was a “grown-up way” of handling potentially awkward conversations, while others said the engaged couple should cover all costs.

A bride-to-be is divided after revealing that she sent her friends a letter outlining 10 commitments and financial expectations they should make as a bridesmaid.  Lisa Torres, from California, said she was afraid of coming across as a

A bride-to-be is divided after revealing that she sent her friends a letter outlining 10 commitments and financial expectations they should make as a bridesmaid. Lisa Torres, from California, said she was afraid of coming across as a “bridezilla,” but she wanted to be transparent with her friends after being a bridesmaid in the past and unaware of the cost and time investment before agreeing. went. Her letter is in the photo

In a TikTok video that has racked up more than 3.5 million views, the company employee shared the tip that she used to be

In a TikTok video that has racked up more than 3.5 million views, the company employee shared the tip that she used to be “more transparent with her bridal party.” Her letter is in the photo

“I felt very insecure doing this, but in the end I’m glad I did and that was, attaching a letter of what I expected from my bridal party,” Lisa said in the clip.

“Before getting engaged, I was a bridesmaid before and I wasn’t fully aware of all the costs and expectations that come with being a bridesmaid,” she added.

“In that letter, I outlined time commitments, so I told them that if they lived more than an hour away, they didn’t have to worry about making it to the bridal shower or going shopping for wedding dresses with me, it was fine.

“I also specified money obligations, so I told them I would pay for their hair and makeup, but they would be responsible for the cost of the bridesmaid dress – although they had freedom over what style they wanted, I just asked for a specific color.’

Lisa also told her friends that they could turn down the bridesmaid offer if they didn't want the obligations and that there would be

Lisa also told her friends that they could turn down the bridesmaid offer if they didn’t want the obligations and that there would be “no hard feelings.”

The letter sent to her bridesmaids said they were expected to go to Mexico for an all-inclusive weekend to celebrate the bachelorette party and that they would have to pay for their own dresses, a standard practice in the US.  Lisa is in the picture

Lisa said she was 'insecure' and that 'people want different things' but she decided this was best for her

The letter sent to her bridesmaids said they were expected to go to Mexico for an all-inclusive weekend to celebrate the bachelorette party and that they would have to pay for their own dresses, a standard practice in the US. Lisa is in the picture

Lisa also told her friends that they could turn down the bridesmaid offer if they didn’t want the obligations and that there would be “no hard feelings.”

“I told them they could say no to being the bridesmaid, that we’d still be friends, and they could still keep all the presents in the bridesmaid’s box. One of them said no and we’re still good friends.’

Many praised Lisa for her thoughtful and mature approach to the situation.

“Honestly this is great, removes questions and is all reasonable,” said one.

Many praised Lisa for her thoughtful and mature approach to the situation, but some felt she was asking too much

Many praised Lisa for her thoughtful and mature approach to the situation, but some felt she was asking too much

“If someone asked me to be their bridesmaid with this, I’d be so much better and less stressed,” wrote another.

“Very healthy demeanor, I like that,” added a third.

“If I could go back in time I would do this,” said another, “It would save the maid of honor so many hurt feelings that didn’t live up to my expectations”

Others, however, were less sure of the approach, with one saying, ‘You have to pay EVERYTHING for your wedding’.

“If my fiancé and I couldn’t afford it, I’d just have a smaller wedding,” said another.

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