A bride has sparked a fierce debate after claiming her “attention-seeking” mother-in-law tried to ruin her wedding day.
The anonymous woman took to Reddit’s popular JustNoMILs thread to unravel the details of the family feud.
She told readers to “buckle up” as she explained how her husband’s mother had criticized every part of the process, before insisting she no longer wanted a relationship with the lovebirds.
And other discussion board users flocked to the comments to share their own thoughts on the tense dynamic.
The anonymous woman took to Reddit’s popular JustNoMILs thread to unravel the details of the family feud.
In the post, which was uploaded earlier this month, the woman began by describing her mother-in-law as the “kind of person who loves attention, whether good or bad, and can’t stand anyone else being the center of attention.”
She explained: ‘Before last weekend, my MIL wanted to wear a very light beige/white lace dress to the wedding, which my husband vetoed.
“That was a HUGE deal: to say that she didn’t want to come to our wedding and that I “wasn’t starting a relationship with the in-laws well,” keep in mind that I’ve been with her son eight years, so our relationship has already started.
“She also said that my husband shouldn’t marry me, hahaha.”
The exasperated woman continued, ‘Fast forward to the rehearsal dinner. My MIL and FIL (who is really just a saint) paid for the rehearsal dinner.
‘He told everyone and his mother how he paid $1,200 for the rehearsal dinner, after vetoing multiple outcomes and choosing the cheapest option furthest from where we were staying.
‘He said it several times in his speech. My parents very kindly offered to pay for my now husband and mine’s wedding, they didn’t even talk about it or brag.
‘All through the rehearsal dinner she was sitting and pouting. In her speech she said, “DIL, I hope you’re not offended, but this day is for your husband, so I didn’t mention you! Tomorrow is your day.”
She told readers to “buckle up” as she explained how her husband’s mother had criticized every part of the process, before insisting she no longer wanted a relationship with the lovebirds (stock image).
“In her speech, she blamed me because my husband didn’t call me as often once we met and because she lost her son. I never discouraged him from talking to her, so I’m not sure what she’s talking about.”
Then the bride began serving on the wedding day itself.
‘She came into my bridal suite while I was dressed, to which I said “hello!!” With a big smile on my face, she looked me in the eyes and walked past me.
‘The whole time he didn’t congratulate me, but he congratulated all my bridesmaids. She ruined my husband and her first look because she “didn’t want to wait for a photographer”, she then complained that they didn’t have individual photos of the two of them even though I had arranged the first look for them.
“She was complaining about family photo time saying she wanted to join the cocktail hour because there were ‘people there who wanted to talk to her,’ to which I told her she was more than welcome and we were right on schedule.” planned.
‘She sat alone in the garden chair and pouted with her arms crossed. At the beginning of the ceremony, she thanked my husband’s side for supporting my husband as “his side of her was light” due to the fact that she forced us to invite distant relatives and more than 30 did not show up.
But the frosty relations did not dissolve later that night.
‘Now, the mother-son dance: she had it all choreographed with twirling and romance, which was absolutely bizarre. During all the speeches she spoke very loudly and complained when my father “took too long.”
Other users on the discussion forum took to the comments to share their own thoughts on the tense dynamic.
The next day, the mother-in-law was still complaining about the DJ and the photographer “to anyone who would listen.”
The bride’s parents had decided to host a morning brunch before the guests left, which turned out to be more trouble than it was worth.
Then he hissed at my mother because “there wasn’t enough food for his family” while my mother slaved over the stove.
‘My husband had told her to stop four times until she said “bad news, no more food!” when new guests arrived (there was an island full of food). I turned quickly and said “please stop” as my mother was almost crying.
‘My husband says ‘mom, you’re insulting yourself’ while whispering in her ear far from everyone. Wow, we screwed up.
“She walked up to the front porch and sat there for hours claiming we had ‘banished her from inside.’
‘She told her whole family that I told her to “shut up” and her son supported me by saying “yes, mom, shut up.”
‘He loves being the victim; My husband thinks that is his happy place. She exaggerated everything: she left and didn’t thank my parents; she manipulated the situation to make my husband and I look like the troublemakers.
Other family members have since weighed in on the petty dispute, insisting that the newlyweds apologize.
The woman concluded: “I feel like she stole my wedding weekend from me, since her attitude and drama was the only thing that could be talked about.” My husband cried. So many negative emotions.
‘Now I’ll be stuck with her forever, but my husband is worth it. How do I navigate this? I don’t want a relationship with her, but the rest of the family is normal and I love her more than anything. The memory of my wedding is contaminated. “I try to be positive, but it’s difficult.”
In the post, which was uploaded earlier this month, the woman began by describing her mother-in-law as the “kind of person who loves attention, whether good or bad, and can’t stand anyone else being the center of attention.” archive image)
The Reddit post was soon flooded with advice on how to navigate the strained relationship when one person wrote: “You have little contact.”
The Reddit post was soon flooded with advice on how to cope with the strained relationship.One person wrote: ‘You have little contact.
‘Have a plan with your husband that always starts and ends with supporting each other. Then stay calm and follow the plan (especially when that plan goes away).’
A second person added: ‘Raised by a narcissistic subreddit. She is a narcissist. She won’t get better. Make sure her husband gets therapy and they focus on their journey together. Continue without contact.’
Another commented: ‘The good news is that you’re not actually stuck with her. You don’t have to be in a relationship with her in any way. Make plans to see the rest of her family without her. In five years, renew your vows and have a new wedding without her.
Someone else spoke up: ‘Another person added: ‘You and your husband should cut contact with her, or at least keep contact very low. You don’t need a relationship with her; She’s not who you married. I think her husband should go to therapy to help himself.