Black woman was shocked to discover that the white man she was dating sent racist messages to his friends
A young black woman from Arizona says she was shocked to discover that the white man she had been dating for months wrote racist reports about her to his friends.
Tatum Patrice, 21, recently spent time with the man playing music from his phone when she discovered the group chat he kept with friends.
Scrolling through their posts, she found out that he was talking about calling her the N word, said his grandfather would have owned her and declared ‘f *** black women’ – all encouraging from his friends.
Captured: Tatum Patrice, 21, says she was shocked to discover that the white man she had been dating for months wrote racist reports about her to his friends
Discovery: She used his phone to play music and started browsing his messages – then he found a group chat he had with two of his friends
Tatum shared the disturbing racist messages on Twitter on May 27 after taking several screen grabs.
She explained, “So I’ve been talking to this white man for a few months now. I gave everything to this man [for real]… find out he’s been racist all the time. That’s how he talks about me to his friends.
“I can’t make this up. I – I have no words … “she wrote.
The man, addressed as Graeme by one of the other members of the group text, wrote: ‘Sorry sorry, but I have another black girl … and every time she says something stupid like f ***, I want to give her the One word lol. Is that bad? Or is she just playing her part?
“This will stay between all of us,” he added. “I really want to call this girl the n-word and let her leave … is that wrong? I swear. ‘
A friend named Colton writes it down and writes, “You call her so lmao when she plays the part, she can’t get mad when you say it.”
Gross: The guy named Graeme kept referring to her as ‘this black girl’ saying he wanted to call her the N word – and his friends encouraged him
Racist: Graeme said his grandfather would have ‘owned’ her, and both he and his friend wrote ‘f *** black women’
Violent: he ‘joked’ that he would ‘abuse’ her and ‘make a new statistic for her’ and his friends would see him on the news soon
“I really want to call this girl the n-word now and let her leave,” Graeme said later. “Is that wrong? I swear.
The f * cking girl !!! I swear!’ he continued. ; Back in the 1920’s when my grandfather would have owned her. Bro … the disrespect at the moment … whipped hands down. F *** black women. ‘
“Wtf I love it hahaha,” replied the friend, Colton. “But real f *** black women lol.”
Graeme later came back: “Bro … this black girl … I don’t know if I can get her to come over … got into a discussion about ‘black life matter’ versus ‘all life matter’.
“I’m about to make another statistic about how white men abuse black women lol!” He wrote. “This f *** ing girl is as stupid as a bag of stones. My drunk a ** can’t handle this s ***. If you just saw me on the news, lol jk. ‘
The post quickly went viral and caught the attention of horrified – and in some cases unsurprised – commentators.
“I feel stupid because I wasted my time and energy on someone who secretly hated me at their core,” said Tatum
Backstory: She said she was playing music on his phone when she discovered the messages
Friends? She added that they’ve known each other for five years and she thought they were friends
Offensive: She also admitted that he had physically hurt her, but called it an accident
“Ladies, DO NOT ignore red flags,” she wrote. “Get out of that toxic situation while you can”
“For anyone who asks,” Tatum wrote, “I was with him last night and I was playing music from his phone. we just had the BLM / ALM debate he was complaining about and I looked at the messages calmly.
So I waited for him to go to sleep, went through them, took a screenshot, and sent them to myself. then I left there.
“I feel stupid because I wasted my time and energy on someone who secretly hated me at their core,” she continued.
“It explains that he hurt me” accidentally “or got me drunk doing things against my will. But you give people opportunities if you care. There are signs / red flags for a reason. Lesson learned.
“Yes, there were times when I was physically hurt by him. I am grateful that I escaped before something worse happened. Ladies, DO NOT ignore red flags. Get out of that toxic situation while you still can.
“I’ve known him for the past 5 years. I thought we were close friends, so I was always there for him. That’s what I meant by giving everything. It is not wrong for you to be a good friend. ‘
Tatum has also tagged the man on Twitter, but has since removed his profile.