Black mother says people think light-skinned son was switched at birth
Yes, he is my son! Black mom married to white man says people assume she’s the nanny because her son has lighter skin than her – and trolls ask if he was switched at birth
- Heather Dalia, 28, claims people look at her strangely when she’s out with her nine-month-old son Carter
- The California mom said people mistook her for the nanny because of his skin color
- Heather’s husband John, 27, has fair skin and blue eyes – but she claims Carter is even fairer than his father
- Cruel Trolls Have Asked Her If Her Son Was Swapped At Birth Because He Looks Different From Her
A black mother claims that strangers think she is her son’s nanny because his skin is so much lighter than hers.
Heather Dalia, 28, gave birth to her son Carter nine months ago. Since then, she says strangers wonder if he really is her biological son because of the color of his skin.
The California mom usually laughs at the comments, but feels it raises important questions about what society sees families should look like.
She said, “I’ve met people when I’m out and about who are shocked that I’m his mother and tell me they had ‘no idea’.
Heather Dalia, 28, from California, is often mistaken for her son Carter’s nanny because his skin is much more beautiful than hers
Heather’s husband John, 27, (photo on his wedding day, left and with Carter, right) has fair skin and blue eyes, but she claims that little Carter is even more beautiful than his father
Heather said people often mistake her for nine-month-old Carter’s babysitter when she’s out with her son – and claims she gets strange looks
“Someone even came to my house to fix the blinds and assumed I was his nanny.”
Heather explained that her husband and Carter’s father John, 27, has fair skin, blue eyes and straight hair. She claims that Carter is even more honest than his father, which shocks people.
“It’s not something you see often,” she said.
“I have people from the black community who ask me where his black features are and I have other people who look at me as if I’ve kidnapped someone’s child.”
After Heather posted photos of her son Carter on TikTok, she claims some people sent her nasty messages asking if he was switched at birth.
Heather wants other people to know that babies are born with all different facial features and skin colors and that families can come in all shapes
“This started to change as his features changed with age, but it took several months for him to bear enough resemblance to his mother not to be questioned.”
After sharing photos of Carter on TikTok that went viral, Heather had to fend off several nasty comments about her family.
She said: ‘Some people are trying to find a way to make it controversial and we got some negative comments from people saying, ‘What does it matter what his skin color is and are you sure he wasn’t switched at birth’ ?.
“I didn’t expect this negative reaction when I posted it, because me and John think it’s funny how different he looked and learned to embrace it instead of making it weird.”
She added that she initially shared the video on TikTok to her friends and family, who were the only followers she had at the time.
Heather says Carter (pictured at a few weeks old) started to look more like her as he got older, but as a newborn he didn’t look like his mother at all
Heather wants to show people that babies are born with all kinds of different characteristics and skin colors, regardless of their genetic makeup.
She added: “You never really see it in the media, but there are so many possible ways a baby can look.
“While some argued that this was common, my experiences in public have made me feel different.
“I think if people just saw it more in the media, it would become more common and people wouldn’t be so shocked to see a black woman with a light-skinned child.
“I’ll believe this is customary when I’m no longer stared at in public when I’m out with my son.”