Bekah Martinez clapped back at critics who say her 17-month-old daughter is ‘too old’ to feed after a photo of her breastfeeding tandem was labeled ‘disgusting’ to her two young children.
The 25-year-old Bachelor’s alum recently shared a heartwarming snapshot of herself breastfeeding her toddler, Ruth and newborn son, Franklin, while writing, “Go ahead and do my mom.”
The Instagram Post received more than 119,000 likes and plenty of support, but a few moms criticized her for breastfeeding Ruth, claiming that the toddler should have been breastfed by now.
Mom on duty: Bekah Martinez, 25, has had a backlash online after sharing a heartwarming snapshot of herself breastfeeding her toddler, Ruth and newborn son, Franklin
Happy Times: Other photos show the Bachelor alum nursing her little boy while her toddler plays on the bed next to her
“Isn’t she a little too big to breastfeed …” asked one person, and Bekah told him to respond.
“She’s not too tall to breastfeed, but thank you for your concern!” she hit back.
“This is disgusting,” noted another. “She is too old and now has psychological problems when she is older.”
Bekah was so shocked by the person’s message that she posted it on her Instagram stories to point out how ridiculous it was.
Recoil: Critics called the photo “disgusting,” insisting that 17-year-old Ruth was “too old” to care for. “She’s not too tall to breastfeed, but thank you for your concern!” Bekah hit back
“My daughter is not yet 18 months old and I get all such comments,” she explained. “This makes me want to take care of her until about seven years old.”
“If a child is breastfeeding voluntarily … there is NOTHING psychologically harmful to breastfeeding through and even after the toddler years,” she added. ‘We are sooooo bad as a society. Children have no idea that breastfeeding is sexual. ‘
Bekah supported her rebuttal by information from the National Center for Biotechnology Information, which states: “When natural weaning is practiced, full weaning usually takes place between two and four years old.
“In Western cultures, there remains a relative intolerance to this type of weaning, and many mothers who breastfeed older infants become ‘closet nurses’. Closet nursing is secretly nursing at home and spreads ignorance about the duration of breastfeeding. ‘
Don’t Have: Bekah also took to her Instagram stories to cover a commentator who claimed that her daughter would get ‘psychological issues’ from breastfeeding as a toddler
Refutation: Bekah shared a passage from the National Center for Biotechnology Information that said natural weaning “ usually takes place between two and four years ”
Ignore the haters: Despite the criticism, many fans, including some self-mothers, thanked Bekah for normalizing breastfeeding with the photo
According to the NCBI, the planned weaning is “when the mother decides to wean without receiving signals from the child that he is ready to stop breastfeeding.” Some reasons for planned weaning are not enough milk or concerns about the baby’s growth, painful feeding or mastitis, going back to work or a new pregnancy.
“Essentially, the NATURAL and NORMAL weaning era is between two and four,” concluded Bekah. “I’m not saying that to be ashamed of people who start weaning earlier (I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and I’d do it myself if I ever felt overwhelmed by boyfriends).
BUT it’s absurd when people panic about a 3 year old or an 18 year old still a nurse !!! It is NORMALLLLL. ‘
Despite criticism, many fans, including some self-mothers, thanked Bekah for normalizing breastfeeding with the photo.
Family: Bekah often shares family photos of herself with her friend Grayston Leonard and their two children
Take that: a few weeks after slamming her critics, she shared another photo of herself grooming Ruth on Instagram Stories
“Some of the comments here are horrifying,” wrote one woman. It’s 2020 when your feelings are hurt, seek help. God made breasts to feed our children. It’s a 24/7 blessing all day and night, 365 days a year.
“We have to lift each other for breastfeeding for so long! You rock mama !! Your children are so blessed that you sacrifice so much to provide liquid gold. ‘
A mom of 10 added: ‘Girl, this is a beautiful picture! All of these troll comments. If you don’t like what she’s posting, just follow it. You’re doing great mom! ‘
Bekah often shares family photos of herself with her boyfriend, Grayston Leonard, and their two children, and she has continued to post photos of herself breastfeeding both of her little ones.
A few weeks after slamming her critics, she shared another photo of herself Ruth took care of on Instagram Stories, writing, ‘Never made plans to groom for so long, but never made plans to wean, so here we are . ”