- New York Times bestselling author Lyz Lenz compared happily married middle-class white women to white supremacists in X on Thursday.
- Lenz, author of This American Ex-Wife, made the provocative comment in response to a viral article advocating for women to marry older men.
- The post was viewed nearly four million times, and Lenz used the traction to promote her divorce memoir.
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An author who made a career of writing about her divorce compared middle-class white women in happy marriages to white supremacists.
Lyz Lenz, author of This American Ex-Wife, made the provocative comment in response to a viral article. published by court who advocated for women to marry older men.
‘When an upper middle class white woman says marriage works for her… like, that’s the goal of white supremacy and patriarchy bb. It works for you and no one else,” Lenz, 42, wrote on X on Thursday.
The post was viewed nearly four million times and Lenz used the traction to promote her divorce memoir, writing “buy my book and read the full argument that is so persuasive my inbox is full of women leaving their marriages” on a second publication.
Lenz, who writes the popular liberal blog ‘Men Yell At Me,’ has written extensively about her divorce from her Trump-supporting husband of twelve years, David Lenz, in publications including Esquire and The Washington Post.
New York Times bestselling author Lyz Lenz compared happily married middle-class white women to white supremacists in X on Thursday.
Lenz, who writes the popular liberal blog ‘Men Yell At Me’, has written extensively about her divorce from her Trump-supporting husband of twelve years, David Lenz (pictured).
Lyz, a self-described “proud divorcee,” maintains that divorce is “a practical and effective solution for women to regain the power they are owed,” according to her memoir.
However, many rejected Lenz’s marriage and the comparison to white supremacy, including writer and podcast host Jesse Singal, who suggested the comments were performative and outdated.
“It’s very, very cult-like and perhaps five years ago it was considered a normal way of speaking and was widely accepted in progressive circles,” Singal wrote of the X comment.
“I think the pendulum has started to swing back, but the killers are an extremely strange bunch,” he added.
Singal was referring to a response to Lenz’s original tweet from journalist Rebecah Boynton, who wrote: “I agree Lyz, but it’s so important that we never forget that rich white men and all rich men in general abuse and murder women too.” Especially when they know they can get away with it.
Lenz responded: “Do you assume I forgot?”
Writer Mindy Isser also criticized Lenz, commenting that “there is a lot to be said about the failures of marriage, the nuclear family, and heteronormativity.” But it’s also true that some people manage to be in love and have equal relationships,” she wrote in X.
“I’m sorry if this is too nuanced or can be canceled,” Isser added.
‘I’m black and so is my wife. “Marriage works for us,” writer Adam B. Coleman said of the post.
Lyz (pictured with her ex-husband David and their children) argues that divorce is “a practical and effective solution for women to regain the power they are owed.”
“This snobbish lady is envious of successful relationships and lives in a rhetorical bubble that can’t comprehend that non-white people are married AND happily married.”
Lenz and her ex-husband David met in high school and married at age twenty-two in 2005.
“I felt like I had been doing everything society had told me was right, and yet I never felt happy,” she said. he told The Times in a recent interview.
‘I had a good life but it felt like a trap. I was forced to clean out rubbish bags and tell my husband where to find the ketchup in the fridge for the rest of my life.’
The couple divorced in 2017. “If something is miserable, you just can’t do it. “It’s not a failure, it’s a success to let go of the misery that holds us back,” she explained.
“If you’re in a situation where you’re negotiating how much misery is too much misery, I think you have the answer.”
David is now happily married to another woman, Lenz. writing about his joand for being able to have “really good sex” with other couples when their marriage is failing.