When should you tell a new partner about an underlying illness? Singles weigh in on medical conditions and dating – and what they say might surprise you
- Singles shared honest opinions about dating someone with a medical condition
- Australian relationship expert Louanne Ward asked if it would be a turnoff
- The dating coach in Perth also wondered when is the right time to tell a partner
- Most agreed that honesty is the best policy if you want a long-term relationship
Australian singles have expressed their honest opinion about dating someone with a chronic medical condition, and whether it would get them out of a relationship.
The discussion started when dating coach Louanne Ward posted in her Facebook group She Said He Said, asking members when they would like a new partner to tell them about an ongoing health issue and whether it would be a deal breaker.
“Dating is hard enough, let alone if you have a medical challenge,” wrote the relationship expert in Perth.
Not just physically and mentally, but also emotionally – the loss of trust or the fear of rejection adds to the challenge. Are we tolerant enough about accepting others?
“At what point would you expect someone to share the information with you, and would it make a difference in your decision to date someone?”
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Perth dating coach Louanne Ward (pictured) asked Australian singles when they wanted a partner to tell them about an underlying medical condition
Most agreed that honesty is always the best policy, and many insisted that it is best to release secrets shortly after meeting someone if the condition is affecting your future relationship.
“ I think the third date is a barrier that you’ve probably decided to move on, so it’s important to try and be open to things, ” one woman wrote.
A second said it depends on the severity of the illness, but added, “I think honesty from day one is key to preparing someone for a long life that poses such challenges.”
A third who developed severe depression after the death of her adult son and years of abuse from her ex-husband said she told her current partner about her past almost immediately.
Most agreed that honesty is always the best policy, and many insisted that it is best to release secrets shortly after meeting someone (stock image)
‘He was very understanding and protective. I think it’s better to be honest and forthright when you value your new relationship. Honesty is the best policy in my opinion, ”she said.
A retired naval officer who has not dated ‘well over a decade’ said he had always made it clear ‘right away’ that he suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder from his time at sea.
He said none of his partners “had a problem with it at all.”
“Better in advance in my book than tucked away, but they are horses for courses on how the individual with the medical problems is feeling,” he added.