Single men assume that women are only attracted to long, dark and handsome dates – but according to these Australians, it’s much more than just good looks.
Perth-based dating coach Louanne Ward has sparked a discussion in her Facebook group, She Said He Said, asking female members to list the traits they find most attractive in a potential partner .
“Ladies, can men be right if they think it’s harder to get a date if they don’t measure up in appearance and height?” she wrote in a thread.
“If a guy isn’t tall, dark, and handsome, what’s the use of being funny, honest, and chivalrous when you can’t get a date?”
And it seems that a majority of women still find the old-fashioned chivalry as an attractive trait, followed by personality, sense of humor, and honesty.
Single men assume that women are only attracted to long, dark and handsome dates – but according to these Australians, it’s much more than just good looks (stock image)
Others pointed to the three Cs: compatibility, connection, and chemistry.
“ Connection is number one, if you don’t it’s a big no … followed by personality, chemistry and they want the same things as you, ” one wrote.
What makes a man attractive? Old-fashioned values and respect, ”said another, while one added,“ I want someone who is honest and chivalrous, keeps me interested (sensible), and makes me smile and laugh often. ‘
Many single people said they were most attracted to personality and how their potential partner treated others, especially their family and friends.
“It shows how real they are,” one of them said.
Another woman explained: ‘For me at the end of the day, when he’s involved in his life, his family and social circle, etc., he treats me kindly and caringly and we laugh and have fun together, a little chemistry is of course On. ‘
While someone added, “If they show a lot of interest in you by asking about you, not just talking about themselves.”
Not everyone agreed with the discussion, however, with one woman saying, “Physical attraction matters in the dating game.”
Dating coach Louanne Ward (pictured) has sparked a discussion in her Facebook group, She Said He Said, asking women to list the traits they find most attractive in a potential partner
What makes a man attractive?
– Good personality
– Sense of humour
– Have respect and values
‘Whoever says not is not completely honest. What’s important to remember is that we all have different tastes and types, ”she said.
I agree that physical attraction is not everything, and there are other very important qualities to consider.
Men may worry about women who only want long, dark and handsome dates, but similarly, women worry that men only want little girls with big breasts who are 10 years younger.
“It all comes down to accepting who you are and owning it. When you are confident and happy, you attract the right person. ‘
Another woman agreed, saying that an attractive chemistry between two people was important – and determined whether or not the relationship could continue.
Louanne also agreed, explaining how physical attraction was ‘subjective and personal’ for everyone.
“ The thing with attraction is that when we meet organically in the wild, we tend to focus on the things that we’re attracted to before going on a date, ” she said.
In modern dating, when we meet people we don’t know, we focus on what we don’t like first.
“The negatives become the focus and we don’t see enough of the positives until we scratch the surface, only then can you really start exposing the important things.”