Amanda Kloots is candid about why she doesn’t want to be called a “widow” after the death of her late husband Nick Cordero, saying she would like people to start using the word “renovare” because it means “to renew.”
The Talk co-host, who lost Nick to COVID-19 complications a year ago, took to Instagram on Friday to share a thoughtful post on the term’s etymology, along with a photo of the word widow wearing a red one. slash through it.
‘Did you know that the Indo-European root meaning of the word widow means ‘to be empty’? Be empty. ‘Be’, in case you’ve forgotten, is a verb, an action word,” wrote Amanda, 39. “I have to identify myself with a word that means ’empty’ – no wonder I hate the word! ‘
Thoughtful: Amanda Kloots, 39, opened up on Instagram why she thinks people should use the word ‘renovare’ to describe those who have lost husbands rather than being widowed or widowed
Not a fan: The Talk co-host shared the etymology of the word ‘widow’, saying it means ‘to be empty’
The mother of one explained that the meaning of the word does not fit the way she lives her life, nor is it representative of the widows and widowers she has met.
“I’m not a half-empty glass girl!” she emphasized. ‘What is ironic to me is that in meeting and spending time with other widows and widowers we are anything but ’empty’. We are desperate to FILL our cup! We try every day to live a life overflowing with presence and gratitude.
“I don’t know how to change a word, but I’m suggesting a word that means something more hopeful,” she continued. ‘A word that gives us strength and strength! A word that is optimistic at a time when we need it most!’
Amanda concluded her post with her suggestion: the Latin word renovare.
“Renovare means ‘to renew,'” she explained. ‘I’m not sure if it’s the right word, but it definitely defines me more than ‘being empty’. So to my fellow renovares who strive every day to renew, reinvent and refill their cup!’
Heartbreak: Amanda, who has two-year-old son, Elvis, lost husband Nick Cordero to COVID-19 complications in July 2020
Staying Positive: Amanda said the meaning of the word widow doesn’t fit the way she lives her life, nor is it representative of the widows and widowers she’s met
The post struck a chord with hundreds of people, especially those who have experienced the loss of a spouse.
‘Renovare I love it,’ wrote singer Andy Grammer, while her Talk co-host Elaine Welteroth added: ‘So well said. Let’s change that word ASAP!!’
Actress Erin Cummings commented, “Thanks for sharing this and the education. Renovare has now been added to my lexicon. Nothing empty about you, my friend. Love you.’
Amanda’s post also inspired others to share their own stories of life after the loss.
‘My husband is deceased’ [in] 2019,” a woman shared. ‘I don’t feel empty. I feel stronger than ever. I do things I never thought I would do. I’m just painting my family room – something for me.’
‘This is what I’m talking about!!!!’ Amanda agreed.
Listen to her: Amanda suggested that people use the word renovare, which means ‘to renew’
Candid: “I’m not sure it’s the right word, but it definitely defines me more than ‘being empty,'” Amanda said of the Latin term renovare
Someone else suggested that “Renovare” should be the title of the fitness guru’s next book, saying, “There are many more chapters in your story to share to inspire renewal, reinvention and replenishment!”
Amanda, who has a two-year-old son, Elvis, co-wrote her recent memoir, Live Your Life: My Story of Loving and Losing Nick Cordero with her younger sister Anna Kloots.
She married Nick in 2017 after first meeting him on the set of the musical Bullets Over Broadway in 2014. The Tony-nominated actor died last July after spending three months in a hospital battling the effects of COVID-19.
Nick was unconscious when he was first hospitalized, and was initially misdiagnosed with pneumonia. The waitress star later tested positive for the new coronavirus on April 1.
From there, his battle went from one complication to another as he was placed on a ventilator and developed problems with blood clots, eventually leading to the amputation of his right leg. He also got a temporary pacemaker and went into an artificial coma.
During his hard-fought battle, Nick was able to come off the ventilator and wake up from his coma, but the infection left his body and lungs so weak that he could never recover.
Using her platform: The fitness guru’s post struck a chord with hundreds of people, especially those who have experienced the loss of a spouse
Healing process: Amanda shared last month that she has started dating again
Last month, Amanda revealed on The Talk that she had started dating again, although the prospect of showing herself there was “pretty terrifying.”
“I met both my husbands on Broadway shows. We became friends first, then we got married,” she explained. ‘Of course we had a child with Nick.
“I’ve never actually had to date. And I just started dating again and it’s so crazy to be dating for the first time at 39. And it’s pretty terrifying and really not in your element, and it’s just, it’s hard. It is difficult.’
Shortly after the announcement, Amanda took to her Instagram stories to shout out an online troll who left a negative comment in response to her dating, cruelly writing, “Wow, that was fast.”
“How dare you judge anyone, especially someone going through this process,” she replied. “There’s too much to say and too much for widows not to talk about. Until then, I’ll yell at anyone rude enough to make such a comment.”