“Nothing tastes as good as feeling skinny.”
These are Kate Moss’s most famous words, but these days it sometimes feels like if the supermodel were offered the choice between a bottle of Champers or being skinny, alcohol would win hands down.
You’d be forgiven for wondering if Kate’s recent enthusiasm for hedonism was a reason for her split from fellow toyboy Count Nikolai Von Bismarck. But it is rumored it could have been that Nik’s ‘teetotal lifestyle’ contributed to the couple ‘splitting’ after nine years.
The socialite couple have been “on and off for years,” were supposedly going in “different directions in life” and “at 50, Kate feels fabulous and wants to get back out and have fun in time for Christmas.” “a source told The Sun.
Meanwhile, Nik longs for a “quieter life” and continues his sober path, and they simply have “more and more different hobbies and desires.”
It doesn’t take Einstein to hypothesize that maybe Kate wants to live life and Nik, 37, is a killjoy because he’s sober. Bored! Next!
It’s quite ironic, really. You’d think a rock ‘n’ roll lifestyle would send a partner packing, not a sober one.
But here’s what many people may not realize when they put down the bottle: sobriety destroys relationships as often as alcohol does.
Kate Moss split from her aristocrat boyfriend of nine years, Nikolai von Bismarck, this week, with a source revealing she felt they were “embarking on different journeys in life.”
As she quietly celebrates six years of sobriety, Amanda Goff (left, today; right, when she was a heavy drinker) reveals three honest truths about how to stop drinking.
And here’s why I know: because as I write this column this week, I’m quietly celebrating six years free from demonic drink.
That’s six birthdays, six Christmases and six New Years Eve with friends without a glass of champagne in hand. It’s also six years of recovery for my mind, body and soul, and six wonderful years without hangovers.
I don’t want a medal. This is not a column about how wonderful sobriety is; that’s for another time. It’s about how difficult it can be to be sober in your relationships and for those around you, as told by someone who is living it as we speak, me.
But of course, every relationship is unique and I’m not saying that Kate has a problem with alcohol like I do, and I’m just speaking from my experience when I gave up.
The couple met through Nik’s mother (and Kate’s confidant), Countess Debonnaire von Bismarck, and the stylish duo ventured out on their sober journey together in 2018, and were told by Kate’s friend DJ Fat Tony to her friends at the time that Kate had “found her inner happiness” by ditching alcoholic beverages.
Kate’s wellness brand Cosmoss was born and by all accounts she seemed to practice what she preached, giving up cigarettes and alcohol, and it was the first time we’d seen the famous south London party girl shine in decades. Her skin glowed and the shine returned to her captivating brown eyes.
I don’t know what gave Kate the need to have fun again. But, speaking for myself, it doesn’t take much for those who struggle. As I say, I am one of them.
But I was disappointed to see photos of the 50-year-old fashion muse with a bottle of Gray Goose vodka hanging from her bag, on a night out with friends, celebrating her coronation as Global Ambassador to the British Beauty Council in October of the year past. .
I’m not surprised that party girl Kate no longer wants to be with Nik sober, especially since he’s fallen off the wagon.
Party animal Kate and teetotaler Nik are seen leaving her raucous 50th birthday party in January.
For me, recovery was not a straight line and it has been the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. But it was also the best thing I have ever done and I recommend a detox to anyone who thinks they need one.
But before you commit to giving up alcohol, here are three sobering truths you need to know:
1) Your partner may not like the new you
You were once the life of the party, and now you’re called boring, different, self-righteous, and no longer fun.
I’m not saying Kate said these things about Nik, but you can imagine it, right, behind the closed doors of her London mansion.
Welcome to sobriety. Your partner, who once rolled their eyes (or joined you) in your drunken misbehavior, is now unsure how to deal with you being clean and sober.
Because? There is nothing as uncomfortable as forcing someone to confront their own habits. If you stop drinking, people close to you may suddenly feel self-conscious about your alcohol consumption and feel like you are silently judging them.
This introspection is too painful for some and it is easier to separate from the relationship than to deal with the possibility that alcohol may be a problem.
Alcohol, after all, is the biggest illusion there is: people drink because it’s fun and helps them connect with others, but the truth is that, from my point of view, it stops being fun for people who They use alcohol as a crutch or as a coping mechanism. Pretty soon, these guys start drinking alone at home instead of going out with friends.
Does this photo from the Gucci Cruise 2025 fashion show in May show that the couple was not evolving together but growing apart? questions amanda
2) Everything becomes very clear in sobriety.
Without alcohol clouding your mind, your fool radar is perfectly tuned and you have zero tolerance for fools and fakes.
The photo of Kate and Count Nik sitting across from each other at the Gucci Cruise 2025 fashion show recently struck me as a sign that this relationship was over.
The handsome Count looked as if he had truly moved on from the celebrity scene, and looked like he was ready to go to bed, while Kate looked like she was ready to party. This couple wasn’t evolving together, I thought. They were growing apart.
This type of disparity can lead the drinker to return to the party scene, where their choices are validated and not questioned, unlike what happens at home.
3) You will barely be able to tolerate (or trust) those who drink excessively
You’ve probably heard the saying “never trust someone who doesn’t drink.” Oh, what irony! When he drank, he was the least trustworthy person I knew.
Again, I’m in no way accusing Kate of being untrustworthy or drunk, but she was seen squeezing the hand of Skip Marley, 27, grandson of reggae legend Bob Marley, after a festival in Turkey earlier this year. . while still in a relationship with Nik.
Alcohol blurs boundaries and forces us to do things we normally wouldn’t do, causing a wave of destruction and pain to those who love us.
When you put the bottle down, the madness stops (at least for the sober person). And when you’re sober, there’s nothing more irritating than a glassy-eyed rambler who can’t be trusted.
Nothing may taste as good as feeling thin, Kate, but there’s nothing better for your health (and your relationships) than sobriety.
From former party girl to another, I wish you the best.