Alan Davies admits it took him ‘a long time’ to find a way to discuss his traumatic childhood

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Alan Davies is candid about his traumatic childhood, during which he was sexually abused by his father between the ages of eight and 13.

The comedian, 55, spoke candidly during a performance on Lorraine on Thursday, telling guest host Cat Deeley that “secrets and shame are terrible things to carry for a child” while discussing his memoir Just Ignore Him, which detailed the abuse. described. .

Alan admitted it took him “a long time” to find a way to discuss the “difficult” aspects of his childhood, telling Cat, 44, that he couldn’t share his story onstage in his booth up comedy routines.

Difficult: Alan Davies spoke on Thursday about his traumatic childhood in Lorraine, where he was sexually abused by his father between the ages of eight and 13

Difficult: Alan Davies spoke on Thursday about his traumatic childhood in Lorraine, where he was sexually abused by his father between the ages of eight and 13

The Jonathan Creek star, whose book was initially released in September but is now on paperback, shared how he had friends share their own experiences of child abuse after reading his words, with Alan finding this aspect one of the most “important.” ‘ used to be. things that come from him who writes the memoirs.

He explained: ‘It took me a long time to find some kind of forum to talk about the more difficult things in my childhood, I haven’t been able to do it in stand-up comedy, I did it in this book.

“Several people, people I know, one or two very famous people, they came up to me and they said, ‘I read your book and something similar happened to me’ or ‘similar things happened to me’ and then we talked about it as normally as we talked about a cup of tea.’

He continued, “I feel like the most important thing that comes out of the book, what I hoped comes out of the book was that other people would find someone to talk to. Because secrets and shame are terrible things to carry for a child.

Tough: The comedian, 55, spoke candidly during a performance on Lorraine on Thursday, in which he told guest host Cat Deeley that “secrets and shame are terrible things to carry for a child” while discussing his memoir Just Ignore Him, detailing the abuse was detailed

“But also, you start wearing them as a kid and then you wear them all your life and they ruin everything you do. They tarnish your whole life experience, all your relationships, everything.’

When asked whether writing the book helps at all, he replied: ‘Yes, because recurring thoughts and recurring memories are just there every day.

“It took me a few years to write this and it felt like extracting something and making something valuable, I did what I could.”

Alan’s difficult childhood was made worse by the fact that he had lost his mother to leukemia when he was only six years old, with the physical, emotional and sexual abuse from his father nearby.

Honest: Alan admitted it took him “a long time” to find a way to discuss the “difficult” aspects of his childhood, telling Cat, 44, that he couldn’t share his story onstage in his stand-up comedy routines

The TV star has previously shared how he finally filed a police report in 2017 with his father, who is still alive but told he would not face charges because he was in his 80s, had dementia and was in a nursing home lay.

Alan went on to write part of the book while studying for an MA in Creative Writing, explaining how the experience helped him not only unleash his emotions, but in a way his future comedic career. gave shape.

He said, ‘I took a writing class and that was the place at Goldsmith’s college where I could explore how I wanted to tell this story.

And I was encouraged to use my comedic voice, to not abandon stand-up comedian, to be angry when I felt angry, to write things that made me cry and not to worry about someone doing them. would read…lots of good advice.

Painful experience: It took me a long time to find some kind of forum to talk about the harder things from my childhood, I couldn't do it in stand-up comedy, I did it in this book

Painful experience: It took me a long time to find some kind of forum to talk about the harder things from my childhood, I couldn't do it in stand-up comedy, I did it in this book

Painful experience: It took me a long time to find some kind of forum to talk about the harder things from my childhood, I couldn’t do it in stand-up comedy, I did it in this book

“They also pointed me to many other good books that were comparable, for example Nigel Slater’s book. It was hugely helpful and I could write anonymously and privately and not, you know, it wasn’t for work.’

During the interview, Alan also spoke warmly about his mother Shirley, who sadly passed away at the age of 38 from leukemia, with the star suggesting she may have influenced his future career.

He said of her: ‘She liked to laugh… she got leukemia, so I was 6 when she died, I don’t have much. But I don’t remember being yelled at, I just remember trying to make her laugh or other people making her laugh.

Youth: “I feel like the most important thing that comes out of the book, what I hoped comes out of the book was that other people would find someone to talk to. Because secrets and shame are terrible things to wear for a child’ (photo, cover of Alan’s memoir)

‘I remember someone was painting in the house once, I must have been 3 or 4 and he said ‘Engelbert Humperdinck’. It was the top of the charts at the time.

“And she really laughed at that and I thought, ‘What’s going on?’ That didn’t sound like a name, so I went “what’s your name?” and he went again “Engelbert Humperdinck” and she laughed again, she was a good audience.

“I think maybe she was my first audience and she wasn’t there. That’s what made me or what made me become a comedian, maybe I don’t know.”

Lorraine stays on ITV from 9am on weekdays.

Writing: I was encouraged to use my comedic voice, to not abandon stand-up comedian, to be angry when I felt angry, to write things that made me cry and not to worry about someone making them would read

Writing: I was encouraged to use my comedic voice, to not abandon stand-up comedian, to be angry when I felt angry, to write things that made me cry and not to worry about someone making them would read

Writing: I was encouraged to use my comedic voice, to not abandon stand-up comedian, to be angry when I felt angry, to write things that made me cry and not to worry about someone making them would read

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