Business boosts, boosts self-esteem and life satisfaction — but only if you’re a woman, research shows
- Scientists studied 609 people involved in an affair and 338 who had become victims
- Women who cheated reported greater self-esteem and life satisfaction
- The opposite was true for men, who suffered more after committing adultery
When George Michael sang about cheating with a partner and never wanting to dance again, he may have been onto something.
That’s because men are more likely to report low self-esteem and a decrease in life satisfaction after an affair — while for women, it’s the opposite, according to a study.
Researchers from Tilburg University in the Netherlands collected data on German adults over the age of 12 and asked them about their well-being and their relationships.
From a large cohort, they targeted 609 people who had been involved in an affair and 338 who had been victims of it.
Analysis generally revealed that women who cheated reported an increase in self-esteem and life satisfaction after the affair.
Meanwhile, the opposite turned out to be true for men, who suffered more after committing adultery.
When George Michael sang about cheating with a partner and never wanting to dance again, he may have been onto something. That’s because men are more likely to report low self-esteem and a decline in life satisfaction after an affair – while for women it’s the opposite, according to a study (stock image)
Beware of someone flirting with you online – it can ruin your relationship, study claims
Whether it’s in your Instagram DMs or through work Slack, many people enjoy online flirting and see it as a bit of harmless fun.
But a new study has warned that these seemingly harmless interactions can be disastrous for your relationships.
Researchers at Reichman University have revealed how flirting online can make your current partner less attractive in the real world.
The study, published in the journal Psychological Science, reads: ‘Our analyzes found a group of participants who seem to recover and even thrive after infidelity…unfaithful wives.
“Potentially, women’s affairs are more likely to be the result of partner dissatisfaction, and consequently the affair may be a wake-up call for their partners, leading to positive behavior change.”
‘A look at the results suggests that male offenders were more negatively affected by the event.’
Their results also showed that cheating was preceded by a gradual decline in personal and relationship satisfaction over several years.
This can be caused by a number of reasons, for example a lack of honest communication or an important life event such as having a baby.
“In offenders, this decline may be a reason to start an affair or even an intentional distress management strategy,” the researchers wrote.
‘In victims, a decline in well-being can be the result of feeling the partner’s dissatisfaction or be a causal factor that increases their likelihood of being cheated on.
‘Accident has been associated with poor outcomes in social life in previous research.
Analysis generally revealed that women who cheated reported an increase in self-esteem and life satisfaction after the affair (stock image)
“Therefore, a decline in personal well-being can make the future victim less attractive, contributing to the partner’s infidelity.”
Separate research has found that if your friends are having affairs, you are more likely to cheat, too.
Researchers at Reichman University in Israel found that when adultery becomes the norm, feelings of commitment to a current partner decrease, while desire for an alternative partner increases.
And they warned that the phenomenon seems to affect men more than women.
According to the Office of National Statistics (ONS), infidelity is one of the most frequently cited reasons for divorce in the UK.
A 2015 YouGov survey found that as many as one in five Britons has had an affair.
WHAT TAXES DO PEOPLE USE TO STOP DECISIONING FOR THEMSELVES?
Researchers at the University of New Brunswick asked 362 heterosexual adults how they had resisted the temptation to cheat in a relationship.
1. ‘Relationship Improvement’
Seventy-five percent of survey respondents, who were aged between 19 and 63, chose “relationship enhancement” as their primary tactic.
This trick included things like taking their partner on a date, putting extra effort into their appearance around them, or having more sex with them.
2. “Proactive Avoidance”
The second most popular was “proactive avoidance,” which meant keeping your distance from temptation.
In addition to physically avoiding the temptation, people also avoided engaging in close conversation with that person.
3. ‘Deviation from temptation’
The third and final tactic people used was ‘deviating from temptation’, which involved feelings of guilt and negative thinking about the seducer.
Participants indicated that they flirted less when they applied the latter, ‘derogation from seduction’ strategy.
But none of the strategies had an effect on the levels of romantic infidelity, sexual infidelity, and whether the relationship survived.
Psychologist Dr. Alex Fradera, who was not involved in the study, said the findings show that little can be done once feelings of temptation have crept in.