A woman who put her son up for adoption in 1957 asked not to be ‘pre-assessed’, revealing that giving up her child was the ‘worst feeling you can understand.’
Pat Walker, from West Sussex, was reunited with her Surrey son Richard Cue, after half a century apart in 2014 on the ITV show Long Lost Family, after giving up on him at age 17 due to financial difficulties.
Pat appeared in Lorraine this morning and shared how she had been broadcast since the broadcast, receiving comments about her decision to put her child up for adoption, but said the choice was a “ trauma no one would understand unless they experienced it. ”
She insisted that she “did the right thing” for her child, despite the “terrible” emotional turmoil that the decision caused her, saying there will always be “instinct and bond” with Richard.
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Pat Walker, (photo) from West Sussex, was reunited with her son Richard Cue (photo) from Surrey, after half a century apart in 2014 on ITV show Long Lost Family
Pat appeared in Lorraine this morning and shared how since the show aired, she has received comments about her decision to put her child up for adoption
Speaking of the decision, she said, “It was terrible, I was only 17, and it’s a trauma no one would understand unless they experienced it.
“You get a lot of people who say ‘I would never let my child go’. Everyone has their own circumstances and they should not judge in advance, because everyone has to make the decision, no matter how difficult, which is best for the child.
“It doesn’t matter what you feel, even if it’s the worst thing you can understand unless you’ve experienced it.
“I think I did the right thing with this sweet guy who comes into my life and as he said it’s an instinct and a bond that is always there, and you take it with both hands and he’s with now forever me.’
After reuniting, Richard and Pat developed a close relationship, and the pair will both appear on the ITV sequel show Long Lost Family: What Happened Next
The show will detail how Pat’s daughter Dawn (pictured left) struggled to come to terms with her mom’s sharing
Richard started looking for his birth mother in 1997, when the death of his adoptive mother meant that he and his guardian were not related.
About the 2014 show, Pat said, ‘[The news] first came by letter from an investigator. I didn’t know it was true [for] Long lost family and we were quite excited.
“We called the researcher and everything went so fast and it was really exciting, it was great, really exciting.”
After reuniting, Richard and Pat developed a close relationship, and the pair will both appear on the ITV sequel show Long Lost Family: What Happened Next.
The show will detail how Pat’s daughter Dawn struggled to come to terms with sharing her mom for the first time, but despite a tough start, Richard and his sister have gotten closer over the years.
They are actually very close now, very friendly, ”she said. “And it’s nice to see that she has a brother or sister and that she has someone other than me.”
Pat insisted that she “did the right thing” for her child, despite the “terrible” emotional turmoil the decision caused her
Richard said that his first meeting with his mother was always a “risk”, but he insisted there was a direct “connection” with Pat
Richard said that the first time he met his mother was always a “risk”, but he insisted there was a direct “connection” with Pat and that he was “really happy” that their meeting was successful.
He said, “It surprises you a little, it is a strange feeling but at the same time a good feeling.
“You are meeting someone for the first time, but you have this connection and maybe it is just the knowledge that she is your mother.
He continued, “There is always a risk that it won’t work, but it’s something I had to do.
“My wife put most of it behind the scenes and encouraged me to continue searching and we did very well.
“But it all depends on individuals and how you approach things. We were lucky to all get along and I am very grateful to Dawn’s family for giving us the opportunity. ‘