A woman who believes that a man should always choose his partner’s engagement ring has sparked a furious debate online.
The woman described herself as “old-fashioned” for thinking it’s strange that some friends insist on picking out their own ring before getting engaged.
“I feel like women have become so insecure and so privileged about their ring because of social media and how other people will view it,” she said on Tik Tok.
‘They have forgotten what the proposal means and what the ring symbolizes.
“If you’re anxious that your man is going to give you the wrong ring, you’re with the wrong man. Woman to woman, the right man won’t ruin that.”
She went on to say that she would never date a man she didn’t trust enough to pick out a sparkler on his own.
“I’ve never had to tell my man how to act – the ring symbolises love and commitment, it’s not about control and perfection,” she said.
Her comments sparked a heated debate among women, especially given the growing trend for brides to choose their own design before the proposal.
A young woman has branded other women who want to choose their own engagement ring “insecure and entitled”
“I couldn’t agree more, I don’t even understand how that is an exaggerated opinion. I was so shocked and I’m even more in love with my ring because I had no idea,” said one woman.
“My sister picked hers out and wasn’t thrilled when the proposal came because she picked it out, I was completely surprised and delighted to see what they picked out for me,” said another.
There were those who totally disagreed, with some saying that it’s important to ask for what you want and that choosing the ring doesn’t mean the proposal can’t be a surprise.
“As a jeweler, I totally disagree. It’s critical that a woman loves her ring and that it reflects her style, although the plans and timing of the proposal should definitely be a surprise,” one man said.
‘I designed my ring, not because my fiancé can’t follow instructions or doesn’t know what I like, but because he knows I like being involved, having the ring of my dreams and the experience of creating it,’ one woman added.
Others argued that men couldn’t read minds and know what a woman wants, especially with something as personal and specific as a piece of jewelry, without asking her first.
“Men are literally stupid… they don’t know anything,” one man said.
“I love my fiancé, but he would never have guessed I wanted an emerald cut ruby ring unless I told him that’s what I wanted,” one woman said.
One wife had proof that some well-meaning men are not so good when it comes to buying something as complicated as a piece of jewelry.
“My husband bought me some earrings recently because he knows I like mushrooms. They’re very sweet, aren’t they? They’re not mushrooms, they’re magician’s hats. I couldn’t tell them apart,” the woman said.
Someone else thought that buying an engagement ring together isn’t about a woman being controlling or feeling entitled, but just another shared experience.
“As you get older and have more life experiences, you don’t care about the perfect proposal or anything like that anymore, you just go out and buy rings together, and that’s it,” she said.
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