A woman has sparked a heated debate after revealing she ditched her friend’s wedding party to go to a bar because the lovebirds weren’t serving alcohol.
The unknown guest took to Reddit to detail her experience at her friend’s “boring” wedding and confessed to telling others at the event that she was leaving early to go to a bar.
She admitted she was expecting to get drunk while celebrating her friend’s wedding, but was shocked to learn it was a “dry wedding” because the groom had been “two years sober.”
The anonymous user explained that while all of the groom’s friends stayed for the after-party, all of the bride’s friends left her to go celebrate somewhere else.
In it ‘Am I the idiot?’ subreddit, the guest wondered if she was wrong to leave her friend’s wedding to go get drunk with other guests.
A woman has sparked a heated debate after revealing she left her friend’s wedding party to go to a bar because the lovebirds weren’t serving alcohol (file image)
“Two weeks ago, I (a 35-year-old woman) went to a wedding in our college town for a member of our college friend group,” she wrote.
‘My husband and I dropped the kids off at my parents’ and headed out. We got a rental house with another couple who I went to college with for a few days. My husband and I don’t get a lot of time to ourselves without the kids, so we were excited to relax.’
The Reddit user said the wedding lasted until 11 p.m. with “an after-party with the bride and groom at the venue.”
“The place was a beautiful mansion and the couple rented it that night; the next morning they were leaving for their honeymoon,” he added.
And although they were initially thrilled to attend the wedding, once they arrived, their excitement quickly turned to disappointment.
“We cut to the wedding day and see that it’s a no-alcohol wedding. Apparently the groom has been sober for two years. No one told us this and we were disappointed,” the original poster read.
And when the couple discovered that they weren’t going to go out partying with a glass of alcohol in their hand, they decided they would look for fun elsewhere.
The bride’s friend explained that she then told the other guests that she was going to bars instead of her friend’s after-party.
The unknown guest took to Reddit to detail her experience at her friend’s “boring” nuptials and confessed to telling others at the event that she was leaving early to go to a bar.
‘‘We left the wedding at 9:30 because we were really excited to go out and the wedding was boring,’ she added.
She explained that although the ceremony was at 5pm and the wedding at 6pm, the bride was still disappointed when they left at 9:30.
“Almost the entire university group left at that moment and went out. Apparently, it was not the bride’s group of friends who stayed for the party, but the groom’s group did, and the image at the party was very uneven,” she continued.
‘We all found out from the bride and she called us morons for leaving. She said she didn’t feel supported and felt like we were screwing her now husband over for his sobriety. I told her she was overthinking the situation.
“We just wanted to get out. She’s especially angry with me because she sees me as the leader of this outing.”
At the end of the post, the user admitted that she didn’t think she had done anything “wrong” and wondered if she was the “idiot.”
Many people on the web flooded the comments section of the thread and criticized the bride’s friend for her behavior.
One person said: “You’re the moron. You’re going to get told a lot ‘if you can’t have fun without alcohol then you have a serious addiction problem and you’re useless’ but I completely disagree with that sentiment and think it makes no sense at all so I want to be clear that’s not why I’m voting for YTA (you’re the moron).
‘I think couples should disclose this in advance so people can plan ahead, as alcohol at weddings is the norm.
Many people on the web flooded the comments section of the thread and criticized the bride’s friend for her behavior.
“But you’re an asshole for this: ‘We told people we were going to some bars afterward and that we weren’t going to the after-party. We left the wedding at 9:30.'”
“You were talking shit AT HER WEDDING, and then you got a whole group together to leave her party early. That’s being a bad friend. Skipping the after-party to hang out after would be fine, even expected, but leaving the wedding early and bringing a whole group with you? Yeah, you’re really, really bad.
‘She’s trying to support her current husband and will continue to do so throughout the marriage, and you couldn’t even support your friend for an extra hour and a half? Life isn’t about always doing what you want to do. You function on a greedy algorithm, you only choose what makes you happy in the moment, screw everyone else, and that’s not what makes a good person.
‘Sometimes we have to attend long-winded ceremonies for our siblings. Sometimes we have to attend boring art exhibitions for our friends. Sometimes we have to participate in boring parties to celebrate the people we love. Get over it!’
Another user added: “I’d like to call you out, not the moron. If you had gone quietly and not talked about it to groups of people, you would have gotten that sentence.”
“Unfortunately, you’re the jerk. You told all your friends that this was bullshit and that you were going to get drunk and you became the ringleader that the group of friends followed.”
Someone else wrote: ‘You’re the moron. That’s a pretty rude way to treat a “friend”. Basically everyone bailed on the wedding celebration, and I’m guessing she was looking forward to celebrating her wedding with her “friends”. That’s why you were invited. And it was a reasonable expectation of her that you would actually want to celebrate her marriage, since you went.’
‘Honestly, you should go to weddings to celebrate and support the marriage of friends and/or family, drinking should never be a necessity. Even if you were to get disillusioned by the alcohol, celebrating and being happy for your friend would take priority over getting drunk.’
One user added: “You’re the moron. I’m going to be downvoted because people seem to hate alcohol-free weddings, but as someone who has a partner in recovery, I’ll never understand why people can’t go without something for a night to support someone you supposedly care about. You chose getting drunk instead of spending time with your friends as the only reason you went out in the first place.”
However, other users sided with the friend and claimed that she stayed long enough, sparking a heated debate in the comments section.
However, other users sided with the friend and claimed that she stayed long enough, sparking a heated debate in the comments section.
One person wrote: “No, you moron. 10pm is a perfectly reasonable time to leave a wedding. Some guests started leaving my wedding around 8pm and I didn’t cry about it, I just hugged them and genuinely thanked them for coming.”
Someone else commented: ‘You’re not an idiot for leaving. I guess it would be polite NOT to say anything when you leave. But I don’t think leaving a wedding at 9:30pm is an idiot thing to do. If you were going to pick up your kids or something, I don’t think he’d be mad.’
“She’s upset because she’s embarrassed. And she’s only embarrassed because ALL of her friends left. You’re not responsible for everyone’s actions. Plus, I’ve never heard of an ‘after party’ after a wedding.”
One user added: “No, you moron. 9:30 is a perfectly reasonable time to leave an event. At my wedding, I had people leave early for various reasons, and that’s perfectly fine.”
“If you’re planning something that will last late into the night, your job as the host is to entertain your guests. If they’re not entertained and leave before the service is over, then it’s your responsibility.”
“No, you moron, that’s what happens when you surprise your guests with a dry wedding,” one person commented.
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