A wedding guest has sparked a heated debate after revealing she wanted to leave her cousin’s wedding two hours early so she could go to bed earlier.
The anonymous woman, who is in her 40s, took to Reddit to ask people on the site whether it was acceptable to return home four hours after the start of a wedding ceremony.
He explained that the special day, which will take place on Thursday, is scheduled to start at 4 p.m. and end at 10 p.m.
However, the guest, who noted that she would not be bringing her partner with her, questioned whether it was okay for her to leave at 8:30 p.m. or “even earlier.”
In a thread titled WeddingShe confessed that she wanted to go to bed early that night because she had to work the next day and the ceremony was a whopping 60 miles from her home.
A wedding guest has sparked heated debate after revealing she wanted to leave her cousin’s wedding two hours early so she could go to bed earlier (file image)
Her post was titled: “Do I have to stay at a wedding the whole time? Or can I just leave after the cake is cut? I can’t remember the proper etiquette.”
She said she had not attended a wedding in over four years and could not remember the correct way to do things.
The wedding guest commented: ‘My cousin is getting married and the ceremony is at 4pm, then there will be a cocktail party, dinner/reception, and after party. It looks like the ceremony and reception will be from 4pm to 10pm. Is that six hours!? Too long for me lol.’
‘And there’s one after-party I definitely won’t be going to, it seems it’s for the bride’s younger friends. I’m in my 40s and go to bed early, lol. My date can’t come (her back hurts) so I’ll be alone, although it’s a family wedding so of course I’ll have people to talk to.
Can I respectfully check out around 8:30 p.m. or even earlier?
The woman later added that she was not very close with that side of her family and often felt “left out” when she was around them.
He added: “I don’t have a particularly close relationship with this cousin, although he is a good person. I am going out of respect for my aunt and uncle, with whom I had a very close relationship during my childhood.”
The anonymous woman then listed the other reasons why she was considering returning home early at night.
The anonymous woman, who is in her 40s, took to Reddit to ask people on the site whether it was acceptable to go home four hours after a wedding ceremony.
Some Reddit users were on her side and urged her to leave the wedding whenever she wanted.
“The wedding is on a Thursday night and I have to work the next day. The wedding is 60 miles out of town, so the commute there and back is very long,” she explained.
The wedding guest also admitted that her personality type sometimes made her want to avoid these types of events altogether.
She added: “I’m an introvert and bad at small talk, and my partner, who can’t come due to a back injury, is the life of the party, so I’ll be a bit lost.”
At the end of the post, he asked people for help.
“It’s still a happy occasion, I wish the couple all the best, I’ll give them a nice gift and we’ll celebrate, but I don’t want to prolong my stay for all these reasons,” she said.
Her candid post sparked a lot of opinions and sparked an intense debate.
Some Reddit users were on her side and urged her to leave the wedding whenever she wanted.
However, others said they disagreed with his request to leave early and pointed out that he should stay the whole time.
One person said: “Typically, after cutting the cake and starting to dance, it’s acceptable to quietly leave if dancing and having fun isn’t your thing. It’s extremely rare for 100 percent of guests to stay until the last dance.”
Someone else wrote: ‘Regardless of etiquette, most people won’t notice if you sneak out early. That being said, any time after the cake is cut is fine.’
Another user added: “The cake cutting is the signal for those who leave early that they can leave. No matter how close they are.”
“No one will notice when you leave. Seriously. Dinner and (then anytime after) no one will care if it’s before or after any specific part of the wedding,” one user wrote.
However, others said they disagreed with his request to leave early and said he should stay the whole time.
One person said: “I always forget how short American weddings are.”
Someone else wrote: “Americans are not the best in the world when it comes to ‘celebrating.'”
Another user commented: “You sound great.”
“Right? She’s probably “that” guest they didn’t want to invite but the rest of the family forced them to,” another person added.
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