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In the world of texting, we’ve all unknowingly carved out our own “texting personalities,” according to one relationship expert.
Tina Wilson, British founder of buddytold FEMAIL how your phone habits could say more about you than you think, even if you’re someone who overwhelms your friends or makes them feel good.
There are also people who “choose” who they want to associate with, which can be “extremely frustrating” and “rude,” the relationship expert says.
But fear not, because in addition to revealing the different texting personality types, Tina has also shared how to deal with each character, from playing them at their own game to even explaining that you’d only like to talk face to face.
Here, the expert provides insight into what your typical texting behavior says about you and the person you’re texting…
Responder on the move
Tina revealed: ‘An answering machine on the go is a busy bee. They are involved in a lot of things and often say how incredibly busy they are. They make an effort to respond, which is why they always seem to be in transit mode.
;Sometimes this may seem distant, but deep down they mean well. They’ll also stop a text conversation mid-stream when heading to a meeting or catching your flight.
Tina Wilson (pictured), British founder of Wingman, told FEMAIL how your phone habits can say more about you than you think, even if you’re someone who overwhelms your friends or makes them feel good.
“It can make others feel like you don’t have time for them, which is technically true to some extent.”
‘However, they should try to understand that the intentions of positive communication are there, even if they sometimes come across as rushed, not fully present and distracted.
‘If you both care about each other, try to take time from time to time to have a proper conversation, whether on the phone or in person, to make one party’s on-the-go communications worth the effort. avalanche of text messages. .’
Strategic text messenger
‘A strategic texter is someone who establishes contact for their own benefit. “They do it for themselves and will use manipulation tactics to get what they want,” the expert explained.
‘That’s why this type of texting is known as strategic texting. They will make it seem like they are being considerate or doing you a favor, but it is all premeditated for their own benefit.
“At first, this may leave the recipient elated, as they may be swayed by the charm or thoughtful nature of the sender’s intentions. This is true in both work and personal situations.
‘However, it often makes people feel as if they are just a pawn in the texting game, which is only useful in certain situations. I suggest delaying the initial response and asking yourself why they might actually be reaching out. Read between the lines.
“By sitting down, pausing, and responding when you’re not busy, you can help ensure you’re not being taken advantage of and better understand their intentions.”
emoji responder
There are also people who “choose” who they want to associate with, which can be “extremely frustrating” and “rude,” says relationship expert (file photo)
Tina described an emoji responder as “someone who has a habit of responding with emojis to convey their thoughts or emotions.”
He added: “They are classified as lazy texters, as they can respond to even long text messages with a thumbs up, for example.”
“They’re not necessarily ‘on the go’, but chances are they don’t bother responding with written words and think an emoji is enough. They might have multiple WhatsApp conversations, switch between them, or be distracted at work.” .
‘Emoji responses can be fun or communicative if a simple response is required, especially if both parties are busy people.
‘However, don’t fall into the trap of confusion or making assumptions, especially if it’s an answer to something important. For these types of communicators, it would be best to pick up the phone and clarify things directly. This will save you a lot of trouble and avoid misunderstandings.’
Love bomber text message
“Just like in the dating world, love bombing is very common in texting scenarios,” Tina said. ‘Love bombers will overwhelm your phone with fun, romantic, wonderful things or even gossip.
‘Just like in romantic relationships, a classic love bomber overdoes communication and then suddenly disappears, only to return with his charm.
‘Treat a love bomber with a pinch of salt. Their lovely words shouldn’t make you feel abandoned later, which often happens.
‘In psychology, when someone breaks contact, it makes us want more. Although a loving texter may make someone feel amazing in the moment, their pattern of bursts of texting followed by silence can negatively affect the responder.
‘If they are a love interest and they are bothering you, walk away. If it’s a friend or family member, try explaining that you’d prefer to have real conversations with them.
Guaranteed responder
‘A guaranteed answering machine will always answer the text message as they are people pleasers. You can expect a quick response, rain or shine. “This type of texting is flexible and tolerant, often putting the needs of others before their own,” the relationship expert explained.
‘They probably respond to others to satisfy a deep desire to please and love. Because they meet the emotional needs of others efficiently, there is a risk that a guaranteed interlocutor will overlook their own needs.
“Therefore, it is important not to pile too much on them and try to maintain some balance. They may not always be the right friend to ask for advice, as they have a habit of trying to give perfect answers.
“Tough love or honesty can take a backseat while you focus on being kind, lovable, and diplomatic.”
Reply to text message roulette
“A reply roulette user will only respond to some messages, evidently selecting when they want to participate in a text exchange,” Tina warned.
‘Most people on the receiving end will assume that whoever sends the reply message to the spinner will have accidentally missed a message. However, when this is repeated, it becomes clear that they are deliberately avoiding certain texts.
‘This can be extremely frustrating when you need a response about plans or important confirmation.
‘To outsmart the roulette texter, play him at his own game. Stop joking and exchanging friends and only respond with the specific question that needs answering.
“While it’s natural to overlook things from time to time, repeat offenders need better manners.”