I’m old enough to remember magazine headlines like “The Best and Worst Beach Bodies” and “The Worst Celebrity Body of All Time.” Most of the contenders were, naturally, women, usually mothers, and definitely over 40 years old.
Dimpled thighs, flabby stomachs, wrinkled skin… every inch of our “decaying” bodies was examined under the microscope for the baying public to judge.
Yes, nothing brings out the pitchforks like a woman who dares to grow old. Especially someone who is bold (or silly?) enough to wear a bikini to the beach.
How dare these women impose their less than perfect bodies on us!
Ah, how the worm has become. And it was time.
Like many of you, I recently delighted in photos of former Ironwoman Candice Warner and radio superstar Jackie ‘O’ Henderson, mothers of three and one son, respectively, looking in the best shape of their lives.
Let’s not beat around the bush. Their bodies are fucking sensational. Not only for women aged 39 and 49, but from any point of view.
Come on, ladies! Having a fit body is hard work: it requires dedication, motivation and time. I respect any woman who works hard in the gym or on the track. Candice is a champion; fitness probably comes naturally to her. However, even after retiring and having three daughters with cricketer David Warner, she has continued like this.
Amanda Goff says seeing Jackie O, 49, (left) and Candice Warner, 39, (right), looking fabulous proves that 40 is the new 30.
Jackie O, on the other hand, is a little different. He is not an athlete and has even struggled with addiction. But today she is sober, happy and in her best physical moment..
She is also single. Who wouldn’t want to be the man hanging on your arm?
Now let’s get to the thorny part.
This week I also saw photos of Celebrity landscape designer Jamie Durie, 54, on Sydney beach with his model fiancée Ameka Jane and their two children.
I’m going to say what I know most people were thinking when they saw the photos: it was wonderful to see Jamie so happy and relaxed with his beautiful family.
And here it comes, and I say this with love, I also couldn’t help but notice how the former Las Vegas stripper’s once famous abs had now been replaced by a ‘dad bod’.
I said it there, and I say it with a grimace, because as a woman, and as a mature woman, I know what it’s like to feel judged for the way my body has ‘aged’.
Jamie is a handsome man and has had a great career. Of Sri Lankan and Australian descent, he became a heartthrob for Australian women, first as a dancer with the all-male revue troupe Manpower and then as a television gardener. He even made it onto Oprah.
Amanda noted that former Las Vegas dancer Jamie Durie (pictured on the beach earlier this week) has taken a more relaxed approach to fitness lately.
I remember being very in love with him, and I still am. He is beautiful.
Now that he’s in his fifties, a father, and about to marry a gorgeous woman, he’s clearly relaxed his workout routine, and who can blame him? Maintaining the abs I had in my twenties would be a full-time job. And let’s be honest here, his physique. was his work. Dancing every night and then spending the days working in the garden would have been great exercise.. But now that she’s relaxing, Jamie may look a little different, but she’s never looked happier. I’m really happy for him.
But back to my point. Why do I compare Jackie and Candice to Jamie Durie? You will see, There has been a change and every woman I know has noticed it.
Gone are the days of the silver fox. Now is the time for mature women to shine.
Sixty is the new 40, 40 is the new 30… you know what I mean. Older women look fantastic and better than men their age. In my previous life as Samantha X, I owned an escort agency for women over 40. My busiest wife was 65 years old.
Society has given us permission to age and we age, damn it. We look better now than we did when we were 25, we live longer and we look sexier at 40, 50, 60 and beyond.
It’s finally our time to shine.
And this is my theory: more and more of us choose to be single after divorce, we have our own careers, our children are a little older, or perhaps we choose to remain childless; we have more disposable income to spend on ourselves, we eat well, we exercise, we take care of ourselves; Some of us opt for surgery and Botox; after all, it is our choice.
If you compare the average 50-year-old man to a 50-year-old woman today, the difference is staggering.
No wonder dating can be so miserable.
‘Sixty is the new 40, 40 is the new 30… you know what I mean. “Older women look fantastic and better than men their age,” Amanda writes.
I’ve lost count of the number of women my age (50) who tell me they only date younger men because, as a friend recently complained to me, “men my age don’t take care of themselves.”
Yesterday I met a fit woman in her fifties who just married a man 24 years her junior. “We came together with energy and drive,” he said. “Men my age tend to drink too much, eat too much and become complacent.”
Women are often told that we look good “for our age” and that we are “still” attractive. Wow, thanks for the compliment! Men, on the other hand, have always been judged first and foremost by their careers, their bank balance, and who they are. hanging on his arm. His appearance, it seems, doesn’t matter that much. Sure, men are objectified from time to time, but in general we have always beenHe is so generous, so forgiving of men with imperfections. We say they have nice ‘dad bods’, but I’ve never heard a man desire a ‘mom bod’.
But times are changing.
The secret is out: ladies, it’s our time to shine. If you are over 40, it’s time to grab the bikini, because it will be a hot summer for girls.