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It all starts with a flirty message. I don’t care who he is or what he looks like; The only thing that matters to me is that he is not single.
“Wow,” I write. “You look like someone I’d like to have a drink with…”
The answer comes in a matter of minutes. ‘Come on! Are you local?
After exchanging just three messages, this handsome stranger (who I know is engaged to another woman) asks me to send him naked photos.
Result. Men are so predictable.
How do I sleep at night? Well, it’s easy. Because I’m not the proverbial ‘homewrecker’ who enjoys seducing married men. I don’t want them to succumb to temptation. But seduction is the nature of my business and I work closely with these men’s wives.
Madeline Smith receives payments from wives and girlfriends to test their partners’ loyalty
I’m a professional loyalty tester, also known as a honey trap, which means women pay me to see if their partners stray, if they get the chance. They are usually already pretty sure that their men are playing away from home, but they just want solid evidence.
Tell me a little about your partner, direct me to their social media accounts and I’ll pounce. I’ll send him flirty text messages, voice notes, and even sexually attractive pictures to see if I can tempt him.
My prices start from £50 for an Instagram or Facebook message exchange. Some days I help one client, other days I help ten. I receive a large number of messages every day from women between 24 and 55 years old and I only accept clients who I truly believe I can help. My main motivation is to support women so they can find better and morally sound partners.
In the case above, this man’s fiancée was three months pregnant and was due to marry him that summer, but she was worried that his behavior wouldn’t add up. His public Instagram profile had plenty of photos of him shirtless on boats and at the gym, but no sign of her. Unfortunately, their concerns turned out to be well-founded.
It is depressing how quickly most men give in to temptation. In the three years I’ve been doing this, the longest a job has taken me was a couple of weeks, but I usually finish a keg in an hour.
Unfortunately, my statistics show that more than 80 percent of the men I ask to cheat will not pass the test.
My client’s wishes guide me completely. If a man doesn’t respond after several attempts to contact him, I’ll let him know and give him two options. Or we consider it a ‘pass’ and block it; or we ‘freeze’ it.
This means I will stop contacting you, but I will not unfollow you. There have been many cases where the man returns after weeks, even months, and tries to start a conversation.
Going back to my client with evidence is an emotionally confusing time. Although they know in their hearts that their partner is cheating on them, they are often willing to make mistakes, so the pain runs deep.
I know exactly how they feel. I’ve been fooled myself in the past, which helps with my work. I know how emotionally manipulative cheaters can be. But in my experience, if you feel like something isn’t right, then it isn’t.
Their ‘honey trap’ methods cost £50 for a social media conversation
As I explain below, there are always signs that something is wrong, if you know what to look for.
Being the one to confirm your worst fears is a terrible burden, but I like to consider myself an advocate for women.
So how did I get into this line of work? I have always been the confidant in my group of friends and provided my “services” to some friends to try out their new boyfriends.
Word spread and finally, when I was 27, my fiancé suggested I start making TikTok videos about it.
At first I had a hard time believing anyone would care, but soon women were messaging me offering me money to make their boyfriends cheat on me. Try explaining that new job to your parents.
At first I hated my job. I couldn’t believe the depths of deception people would sink into. One of my clients was going through cancer treatment when I successfully “caught” her boyfriend. I have lost count of the number of pregnant women I have heard from.
For a while I totally lost faith in humanity. I was going to see my fiancé crying, desperate for the terrible sagas I saw. I didn’t feel guilty about my role in this as such – after all, the men were to blame – but it was terrible to see people’s lives destroyed.
I consoled myself by thinking that at least my clients now knew what had happened behind their backs. They had regained some power, which is one of the most important things about my job.
And it sparked some really healthy conversations with my fiancé that have made us stronger. He is my partner in this business, as well as romantically. We analyze these women’s stories together, which in turn helps us understand each other better.
So what have I learned from the thousands of cheaters I’ve exposed?
Below are some of the top signs to look out for that may reveal your man might be cheating.
He hides his phone
When you go out to dinner, or are just on the couch watching TV, does your man leave his phone face up or face down? It may seem trivial, but ask yourself: what could appear that he doesn’t want anyone to see?
I think it’s silly for people to say phones should be private. You can be whoever you want online (trust me, they would know) and you need to recognize that your partner may feel insecure about your online activities. If you have nothing to hide, why should you care? It meant a lot to me that my fiance felt comfortable sharing his password.
Obviously, a man can’t control whether a woman texts him, but he can control her reaction.
Take one of my “failed” experiments as an example. A client asked me to test her husband and he politely informed me that he was happily married. When I told him the happy news, he said that he had already shown him the conversation. Guys, it’s that simple: transparency, always.
You’re not in their photos.
With my pregnant client, it was an immediate red flag that there were no photos of her on her Instagram profile. Even if he claims he never posts on social media, you should at least appear in his profile photo. Your partner should be proud to show you off; If not, it indicates a lack of commitment.
he uses snapchat
There is no good reason why a man past school age should have Snapchat on his phone. Snapchat, with the USP of deleting messages after viewing them, is an app for cheaters. I have only met adult men who use it to send and receive explicit photographs. Whatever your explanation, if it’s a normal Snapper, be very careful.
Does not show location
Nowadays, it is normal to have your loved ones on location sharing apps. One of the red flags I often hear is: “My husband’s location always seems to go off without explanation.”
Cheaters will make up some excuse as to why they don’t want to share their location, but then insist that their girlfriend share hers. Which brings me to my next red flag…
Uneven expectations
Cheaters are jealous people with fragile egos. That’s almost always why they cheat: validation of a woman’s love is never enough for them.
My clients often report that their partner expects them to have unrealistic boundaries with men: they exclude male friends and don’t even talk to male colleagues. Meanwhile, he’s posting photos of himself with bikini-clad beauties who are “just friends.”
From her experience exposing thousands of online cheaters, Madeline says telltale signs of a cheating lover include using Snapchat and refusing to “share” their location on their phone.
He says you cheat
Does your partner call you “crazy” or claim that you’re “just being insecure” if you raise concerns? Does he accuse you of being unfaithful for no apparent reason?
This gaslighting behavior is not only designed to be humiliating, but it is also very revealing. Most likely, he is projecting his own guilt onto you. In a loving relationship, the response to concerns raised should be shock and gentle affirmation. Think ‘My God, I would never do that to you’, not ‘Are you crazy? I can’t deal with your insecurity right now.’
Intuition is key
Women are more emotionally intelligent than men, but we are also masters at convincing ourselves that strange behavior must have an innocent explanation, when every bone in our body screams otherwise.
Trust your instinct. Almost all the messages I get are from women saying something doesn’t feel right to them, and unfortunately, they’re usually right. If in doubt, give him a call or hire the services of someone like me.
emotional distancing
Does your partner seem disengaged during conversations? Has his praise ceased? Did he touch you a lot and he doesn’t do it anymore? This type of emotional distancing is one of the biggest warning signs.
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