A young woman days away from childbirth has just learned that her boyfriend will not be there when she gives birth – because he is married.
The 23-year-old expectant mother, who is based in the U.S., said she and her 37-year-old boyfriend have been together for two years, and now they are expecting a baby.
But when she was 39 weeks pregnant, and her doctors planned to give birth, the young woman said that her boyfriend had just admitted that he is still married, and that his wife knows nothing about his affair.
Unwanted surprise: a young woman who is days away from giving birth has just learned that her boyfriend will not be there when she gives birth – because he is married (stock image)
The woman told her story Reddit this week, explaining that she and her boyfriend live in different cities – which partly explains how he got away with living a double life for so long.
He often traveled to her city to work and even had an apartment there.
“When I got pregnant, he said he would move to my city and we would live together, he just had to finish with his ex-wife,” she said.
“He told me he was divorced when we met, and I never had any reason to question it,” she added. “I knew he also had two children with her. He told me the truth about it, just not that he was not divorced (or even divorced). ‘
He would have moved to be with her a month ago, but those plans would have been disrupted by the pandemic.
“So fast forward, I am 39 weeks and he suddenly became not communicative, which is not ideal if you are literally going to give birth,” she said.
“Today I found out I’m going to be resurrected on Monday unless the baby decides to come out on the weekend, so I contacted him and I thought, okay, what’s going on?
Literally four days before delivery is not the time when you want to receive this news
“And then he told me he’s not really divorced or divorced, he never told his wife anything and now he felt like he’d been pushed back into a corner.”
Of course, the woman is distraught – and furious that he has waited until this point to tell her the truth.
“Literally four days before the delivery is not the time you want to receive this news and I have no idea what to do next,” she said.
Of course, she added, she plans to tell him to stop, but is now looking at raising this baby alone.
“I CAN take care of the baby, but I was preparing to have a partner to take care of it with me, you know?” she said.
“I was very happy and I look forward to the baby and I feel really sad now,” she said. “Everything is ready for the baby and I’m still excited to meet them, but Jesus. ‘
Commentators went along with sympathy and advice.
Several have told her that for now, she should only focus on the rest of her pregnancy, the delivery, and the first few days with her new baby.
But they have also warned her to be smart about the legal aspects of her situation and to immediately contact a lawyer.
Don’t delete text messages or emails from him, because they can help you in court in the end. Once you get a lawyer, you can find out how to get child benefit, ”wrote one.
“Keep those messages girl. And make sure you continue. The only reason he’s doing this now is because he thinks he can get away with fucking you and living his best normal life, ”said another.
“You have your baby, you give that baby your last name and you get a lawyer!” wrote yet another.
“Sounds like a child benefit request is a good idea,” added another.