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We know that honesty is the best policy, and that a healthy relationship must be based on trust, openness and acceptance of our partner. However, we all have our secrets

We know that honesty is the best policy, and that a healthy relationship must be based on trust, openness and acceptance of our partner. However, we all have our secrets, some great, others small, even within a marriage. Ten women confess Anna Moore the things that have I have never been able to tell their husbands

I AM A SNEAKY SPENDER

The secrets that I keep from my husband are not harmful or hurtful; they are only small drops of joy that I keep for myself. He is an economist and is extremely careful with money. We are comfortably and I do not want to complain, but we have always been sensible, never splashed, saved not spent, gone for the budget option. I have reaped the benefits of doing things your way: we have canceled our mortgage, our children will probably get the debt from the university for free and we can both retire when we are 60 years old. But recently, I felt the need to live now, to treat my gains and enjoy things while I can. He has no idea that I have monthly facials, manicures or massages. He does not know that I spent £ 500 on microblading my eyebrows and £ 600 on a course of facial peels. If I buy clothes that seem expensive, and expensive, and note, lie about the price. I am at the age when I realized that nobody knows what is around the corner. Those goodies elevate me, and we can afford it. I can not see why not. Harriet, 52

We know that honesty is the best policy, and that a healthy relationship must be based on trust, openness and acceptance of our partner. However, we all have our secrets

We know that honesty is the best policy, and that a healthy relationship must be based on trust, openness and acceptance of our partner. However, we all have our secrets

MY PAST TRACK

In my adolescence and my 20s, I had an adventurous sex life. One night, an adventure with a man 50 years older than me, a trio, certain acts in public places and three sexually transmitted diseases. My husband is quite conservative in terms of sex. He had a very religious education and, although he is now an atheist, part of the morality still persists. I know I would be very shocked by some of the things that I have done and just do not see me like that. When we met, he was also a very jealous person, so I never told him. He still has no idea. Louise, 38

He has no idea that I treat myself with monthly facials, manicures or massages

I HAVE OBTAINED AN EXHAUST FUND

Four years before I met my husband, my aunt died and left me an inheritance of £ 40,000, which is in his own separate account. I mentioned it to my husband in the first days of our relationship, but I am sure he has forgotten or assumed that I have gone through it. That fund is my security. Now I'm a stay-at-home mom and I might need it someday to retrain, go back to college or start a business. We have been married for 12 years and sometimes the money has been very tight. We always juggle our finances, skimping and putting too many credit cards. I would be livid if I knew that during all this time I had a nest of eggs, which also makes it more difficult to tell. But it is for our future, and if our relationship ever broke, it is also my own personal insurance policy. Tara, 35

OUR BOY RACER

Many years ago, my husband was working abroad and I went to visit him, leaving our two children, aged 17 and 14, alone at home. Upon my return, I discovered that our elder, usually a very sensible young man, had driven my husband's BMW without insurance or a driver's license. He had hit him against the wall, causing thousands of pounds of damage, but somehow he managed to take him home. None of us could face telling my husband that he has a terrible temper. Instead, I told him that someone had crashed into his car in the parking lot while I was walking through the woods. Forty years later, he still does not know, and I'm happy to say that my son is a successful academic and a married father of three. However, it took him three tries to pass his driving test. Alison, 74

I have never told him about my presentations of a night or aff air with an older man

I AM A GLUTTON DE CLOSET

I am always unhappy with my weight and I have been a yo-yo dietitian since I was 14 years old. My partner is great; loving, supportive and sweet, but has no idea what I eat. He's super healthy: he goes to work on a bicycle, does not eat snacks or eat junk food. I leave the house without breakfast and in the evenings during the week, I will prepare something healthy for dinner. What he does not know is that I often eat two croissants on the way to work, my lunch can be double the size of dinner and when my willpower sinks, I buy chocolate. If you ever rummaged in the bottom of our container, you would be surprised to find so many wrappings for scales, twists and waves. Emily, 29

MY SECRET FLIGHT

My best friend is a man; we meet as colleagues in our first jobs and get along well. It's fun and generous, and although I did not find it physically attractive at first, more than a year of spending so much time together began to change. Finally we met the night before they sent me on a work trip abroad, where I met my husband. We have been married for 17 years and my best friend is also married now. We're going on vacation together, my friend is our son's godparent and our daughter was a bridesmaid at her wedding. None of us has told our partner about that night. It could change the way they see us, and it's in the past. Having said that, I sometimes think that if some day in the distant future we were both single, we could give it another chance. Rachel, 48

Forty years later, my husband does not know that it was our 17-year-old son who crashed his valuable car

I CAN NOT KEEP MY COVENANT

For the sake of my husband, I have never told him about the toxic comments his mother has made to me since we met. He loves his mother and is very close to his whole family. The first time she took me to visit them, her mother waited until we were alone in the kitchen with me, then she started talking about my husband's previous girlfriend, how disheartened everyone was when the relationship ended, and that she thought that my husband always be in love with her Two years later, when we got engaged, she told me that she was "conforming". I hate her. I pity her. But I hate confrontation and I've never told my husband anything. He thinks that she is amazing, and that we all get along wonderfully. The fact that we live 100 miles away makes it tolerable. Helen, 34

YOUR PET ODITION

My husband has no idea how much our dog costs us, and he should never know. It's a big breed and your pet insurance is more than our car insurance and home insurance combined. She also has recurring ear problems that can no longer be covered in insurance. We have extreme money problems caused by long-term debt problems and I know if I knew I would say that the dog has to leave. He is of agricultural origin and not very sentimental with animals. But I love her in pieces and also the children, so we will all lie to protect her. Jo, 43

For the sake of my husband, I have never told him about the toxic comments his mother has made to me since we met.

For the sake of my husband, I have never told him about the toxic comments his mother has made to me since we met.

For the sake of my husband, I have never told him about the toxic comments his mother has made to me since we met.

YOUR CAKE NEXT

My grandmother had a secret that she kept from her husband. He married quite late in life with the wrong person: my grandfather worked in a bank and was very tense and never showed his emotions, while my grandmother was warm, funny and gregarious. Once he did not say a word to her for six months, but divorce was not an option at that time. However, during this difficult time, he met a man he liked and for a few years they went to the movies together every week. He told my grandfather that he would go to a cooking class and this man bought him an elaborate cake to take home each week, and he pretended to have done it. I do not think it was anything other than friendship; just the chance to be with someone who made her laugh. And ended up marrying my grandfather for more than 50 years. Sarah, 50

I have not revealed the toxic comments your mother has made to me since we met

MY SCENE BY BABY-SCAN

When I was pregnant, my husband insisted that we should not find out the sex of our son; in fact, even before getting pregnant he had clarified his views. He thought that it was the only secret that the baby could keep for himself, and that discovering it was "like seeing what you would get for Christmas when it is still September". I agreed with this in the first scan, but could not come with me to the scan of 20 weeks and I cracked: I asked the sonographer to tell me the sex. Was a girl! I was euphoric, but I felt terribly guilty. During the rest of the pregnancy, I had to keep it for myself. Two years later, he still does not know. Abi, 33

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